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So choose to play with those more challenging toys when your toddler is happy, fed, and refreshed from a nap or a good night of sleep. 1  When the whining starts, gently transition to an activity that’s calming, like reading a story together or playing outside. One of the first and easiest things you can do to respond to a baby’s whining is check their diaper. You’ll know right away if that’s the source of their distress. Boredom. Lansbury reminds that if your children are looking for you, you don’t need to answer your them right away.

Instead of responding with, “I’m here,” try saying, “Oh, I’m over here actually.” Remember that you are the parent. Take on a leadership role and let some of the demands and “Mommys” pass by. Whenever your child speaks in a whiny voice say with a smile (to convey you are not angry), “I’m sorry but your voice is whiny and my ears don’t work. So often we hear whining and judge our child’s behavior (as spoiled or demanding).

But the way we see a behavior shapes how we respond to it. The truth is that whining is completely normal for toddlers. Knowing this behavior is normal, we can respond from a place of compassion instead of from a place of anger and frustration. Apply a little Zen discipline here and stay calm when your child begins whining.

1  Remember when your child was little and she fell, and then would watch for your reaction to decide how upset she should be? The same principle applies here. Explain: “People don’t like hearing the ‘whiny’ voice.

It hurts their ears, and makes them think you’re not a big boy.” Stay calm. Don’t snap, “Stop that whining!” and don’t label him a “whiner.” To a toddler, negative attention is better than no attention and labels have a way of becoming self-fulfilling prophecies (and you certainly don’t want that!). Welcoming a new baby into the family can really rock a toddler’s world! In the past, I have written several posts about how to prepare your toddler for a new sibling before the baby is born. Today, I’m sharing 8 ways to make the transition as smooth as possible after the baby has already arrived.

Pick a quiet time and tell your child that there’s a new rule: If he whines, you won’t respond. “From then on, whenever he whines, keep your facial expression absolutely neutral,” Borba says. Toddlers let off stress by simply having a meltdown, but as they get older they gain more self-control, and begin to whine instead. Be kind in response to his whining until you get home and have a few minutes to spend with him. Then draw him onto your lap, look him in the eye and say “I notice you were feeling so whiny and sad, Sweetie.

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In the case of a tantrum in the grocery store, you say firmly, “No, you can’t have a toy,” then “That’s not okay” when he whines or cries; then you ignore the fallout, occasionally expressing your disapproval if it continues: “That’s enough!”

“Jo Frost's Toddler Rules: Your 5-Step Guide to Shaping Proper Behavior” by Jo Frost
from Jo Frost’s Toddler Rules: Your 5-Step Guide to Shaping Proper Behavior
by Jo Frost
Random House Publishing Group, 2014

Try repeating her feelings again (three to eight times, depending on her age and level of upset) in your best Toddler-ese to see if that will make her whining abate.

“The Happiest Toddler on the Block: How to Eliminate Tantrums and Raise a Patient, Respectful and Cooperative Oneto Four-Year-Old: Revised Edition” by Harvey Karp, M.D.
from The Happiest Toddler on the Block: How to Eliminate Tantrums and Raise a Patient, Respectful and Cooperative Oneto Four-Year-Old: Revised Edition
by Harvey Karp, M.D.
Random House Publishing Group, 2008

If your child’s whining continues even after you’ve taught her how to express her wants nicely, let her know that she has the right to have feelings and frustrations that only whining can relieve.

“Discipline Without Shouting or Spanking: Practical Solutions to the Most Common Preschool Behavior Problems” by Jerry Wyckoff, PhD, Barbara C. Unell
from Discipline Without Shouting or Spanking: Practical Solutions to the Most Common Preschool Behavior Problems
by Jerry Wyckoff, PhD, Barbara C. Unell
Meadowbrook, 2010

• Use positive reinforcement when the child self-regulates and avoids a tantrum.

“Pediatric Primary Care E-Book” by Catherine E. Burns, Ardys M. Dunn, Margaret A. Brady, Nancy Barber Starr, Catherine G. Blosser, Dawn Lee Garzon Maaks
from Pediatric Primary Care E-Book
by Catherine E. Burns, Ardys M. Dunn, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2012

By not reinforcing the whining and crying, the parent begins to extinguish this annoying behavior.

“What is Psychology?” by Ellen E. Pastorino, Susann M Doyle-Portillo
from What is Psychology?
by Ellen E. Pastorino, Susann M Doyle-Portillo
Cengage Learning, 2011

The next time they start screaming, if, again, you just hold them or hug them but don’t give them any sweets, the tantrum will end sooner.

“Mindfulness For Dummies” by Shamash Alidina
from Mindfulness For Dummies
by Shamash Alidina
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How firmly you respond to a tantrum should be guided by the level of your child’s ability to put emotions into words and communicate needs respectfully.

“Parenting with Grace, 2nd Edition Updated & Expanded: The Catholic Parents' Guide to Raising Almost Perfect Kids, 2nd Edition” by Gregory Popcak, Lisa Popcak
from Parenting with Grace, 2nd Edition Updated & Expanded: The Catholic Parents’ Guide to Raising Almost Perfect Kids, 2nd Edition
by Gregory Popcak, Lisa Popcak
Our Sunday Visitor, 2010

Point out when another child is whining—your toddler may agree that the noise is hard to take.

“What to Expect: The Second Year” by Heidi Murkoff
from What to Expect: The Second Year
by Heidi Murkoff
Simon & Schuster UK, 2012

You say to the baby (he doesn’t understand the words but he gets the tone) “I think you are getting spoiled.

“Dr. Spock's The First Two Years: The Emotional and Physical Needs of Children from Birth to Age 2” by Benjamin Spock, Martin T. Stein
from Dr. Spock’s The First Two Years: The Emotional and Physical Needs of Children from Birth to Age 2
by Benjamin Spock, Martin T. Stein
Pocket Books, 2002

My son went through a spurt of tantrums at around twelve months, and my first response to that was what every parenting book said to do: ignore the tantrums.

“The Attachment Parenting Book: A Commonsense Guide to Understanding and Nurturing Your Baby” by William Sears, Martha Sears
from The Attachment Parenting Book: A Commonsense Guide to Understanding and Nurturing Your Baby
by William Sears, Martha Sears
Little, Brown, 2001

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  • I found the easiest way to get them to stop is to say I want to whine too. And just start whining over stupid things whine “I want a unicorn that farts rainbows” or “I want to swing from a cloud” really stupid stuff like that. Me and my cousin took her daughter’s to the park and we were getting ready to leave when her youngest started whining that she didn’t want to leave, I was tired and so was her mom and it just popped in my head, what would happen if I stated whining at her. So I started, then her mom started, yes we did get looks from people passing by because here was two grown women whining about unicorns and clouds. But it worked, almost immediately, she stopped and looked at us then the people staring and got so embarrassed that she never whined again, we had explained that that’s how we feel when she whined. Plus for some reason it was a great stress reliever and me and my cousin walked away laughing and smiling about it.

  • This is so helpful, my 3/5 year old girls constantly fight and can’t share toys or are telling on each other all day I sometimes yell cause it’s how I grew up. But this is helpful to remind myself how to deal with it

  • F Yesssss!!! GOD IN HEAVEN I WISH SOMEONE COULD EXPLAIN AND GET THIS THROUGH MY WOMAN’S HARD HEADED ARIES HEAD… ��‍♂️ (I love her do death but she always does things her way)

  • Thank You, Thank You, THANK YOU!!! My husband and I have been struggling with our 1 year old… The whining is out of control, and I didn’t know how to deal with it

  • isnt this type of parenting techniques what gave us millennials….. and we all know how they turned out. It seems to me, this is how it turned into hurt feelings mean the end of the world and imo thats not good for anyone. our future generations need to be more resilient not weaker

  • I really, really don’t like whining. But I know that kids tend to resort to whining when they’re tired, hungry, or bored.
    Here’s the FIX:
    · Baby’s Tired: Set age-appropriate nap schedules for every day, and be sure to Stick_to_them!
    45 min. 1 hr. at 10AM.
    1-1/2 2 hrs. about 1 hr. after lunch.
    Bring sleeper pillows & blankie if you’ll be ‘on-the-go’ during scheduled naps to make it easier to maintain regular rest schedules!
    · Baby’s Hungry: Pre-plan meal times; Add quick, easy snacks for times in between meals, that help to regulate and promote steady blood sugar. Veggies, with chewy, & crunchy texture are great; Add a protein to get a longer lasting, & more satisfying snack (it digests more slowly and steadily than carb sugars), such as:
    -peanut butter on celery, ‘real’ yogurt tubes w/o fruit, carrot stix or broccoli heads & dip, small baby food selections,
    -tofu, chix or turkey lettuce wraps
    -cheese-stuffed grape tomatoes or mushrooms, green beans (cooked al denté).
    Avoid simple carbs, sugar, or processed foods (crackers, sweetened drinks, or fruits) these promote spikes in blood sugar, causing dramatic crashes on the rebound, avoid if possiblet! Choose portable containers, and don’t forget handi-wipes!
    · Baby’s Bored: This requires pre-planning of age-appropriate activities.
    Use these in Dr.’s waiting rooms, on public transportation, and in restaurants. Coloring books, and small crayon boxes, hand-held games of skill, cross-words, tracing, Books, electronic devices for a limited time! Group games like, “I spy”, or “Chinese telephone”, group card & dice games. Carry these along in activity bags for handy access!

    · Another cause of whining may be the child is ill. Carry an e-thermometer to check for fever, have child-sized tylenol or ibuprofen meds, & ginger or peppermint ‘meds’ for belly aches!

    And, finally: Be firm and clear with your child about ‘No Whining’ policy, and stick to them! Consequences must be immediate, consistant, and effective! Use these tips to help prevent whining, and don’t forget to ask your child for their input on ideas, too!
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  • Many people say spank them spank them…. Its like dude no. Thats not the solution. Thats just a easy scape goat and sometimes actually most of the time they start crying harder not to mention if your in public people look at you like your a physco. I saw a african american lady smack her kid like crazy and i was like wow some people should not have kids….. Dont be a bully try something else its 2017 there is better ways to disciplining your child

  • You know what, I saw a baby Elephant throwing a temper tantrum, and, all the adult Elephants just kept walking by the baby Elephant, completely ignoring the baby. And, the baby Elephant finally just stopped, and caught up to the other Elephants.

  • That simple she said. So if they start throwing things across the room, just ignore? I work with kids who act like that. I’m sure they learned it somewhere but do I just ignore?

  • “…put a bag over the weed, and put it in a dark closet…” I was almostwilling to literally do this.:P
    “..and in the child’s brain, something clicks…” MY BRAIN JUST CLICKED!!!

    How can a two minute video be so profound?!!My second child has cried since day one and now that he is over one, and running the show, its hard to take back the reigns. Thank you so much for this video!!!!!

  • i’ll give you the simple answer: tantrums are natural,they happen always.if you know you are not the patient type than can stand it, do not make children.easy as that.society is still fixed on the completely retarded ideea that you MUST get married and have kids cause “thats the purpose of you in life” and “you are not a grown up mature person if you don’t get married and have kids”. complete bullshit made up by people that had kids 30-40 years ago when they give no interest in the fact that your kid will grow up with mental issues.and there we are now dealing with those kids “educated” 20-30 years ago, watching them on live tv shooting in schools and churches and movie theaters.simple fact is that dealing with tantrums and screaming episodes is part of being a parent.it happens and it’s like that with any kid.if you can’t resist that,do not have children. we live on a planet that can support about 3-4 billion people and we are over 8 billion.we are many enough, do not worry, population wont be going down.use a damn condom,thats best against tantrums.

  • you turn your back,do your business,while the kid will try different ways to get attention.and guess what is one other perfect way?throw things on the ground,break stuff.i am sure you wont ignore that since one day he will break something made of glass and cut really bad and cry.ofcourse, you will ignore it “oh,there she is,whining again..”.. while your kid bleeds on the floor.next day you’re with child support at the door and you struggle to keep your kid’s custody..that if not he gets really bad health,than you must think how not to go to jail.so easy for some ppl to talk when they don’t know how many types of kids there are out there.

  • Don’t even act like only children whine honestly I don’t see a problem with it everyone including adults whine about something when it bothers them now excessive whining is what I don’t like but I’ll just make fun of them and make that same little voice they make to drive them crazy that’s what my mom does to me too it’s honestly funny

  • I treated my kids like and adult from the start they never whined after 3 years old never ran to me crying they dealt with their own issues effectively with and adult demeanour since the age of 5

  • my child whine more in public and cries at 7 yrs old and i found out why its because when he was a little baby he did not cry as much more less he did not say as much so now he is making up for it and i hate it!!! I did ignore it in public but people looking at me like wtf tend to your child why he crying and some older adults come to his aid and im like why is the happening right now all i need is to get him to stop by not sheltering and giving him attention but it never works out. what to do??????

  • Your analogies are extremely stupid just answer the question don’t try to be smart. We all have screaming kids we don’t have time for a bag over a weed.