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Like an adult selling someone out at work, many preschoolers tattle for attention, to exert power or to gain favor from an authority figure, whether it’s a teacher or parent. Again, take stock of the situation. Unless someone is about to get hurt, determine if you really want to get involved. However, although many experts suggest ignoring kids when they tattle, this can backfire and cause kids to engage in other negative behaviors to get your attention. Remember that tattling serves a purpose.

Ignoring kids when they are trying. If a squabble over a toy has sent her running to you, ask if she can share, take turns, or play by herself for a while. Teach her to express her feelings to her friends and siblings, too.

Have her practice asserting herself verbally by saying, “Stop it. Don’t do that,” or “I don’t like it when you do that. I’m going to play with someone else.”. Ensure that no one has been hurt (if so, it’s not really a case of tattling). Consider what might have led to the tattling – both the circumstances and the tattling child’s intent.

Listen. Listen to the child’s concerns. Even if he has a tendency to tattle, his.

Preschool Activities How to Deal With Bullies: A Guide for Parents We’ve got the lowdown on when your child is likely to tattle and how you can get her to stop. “That’s one easy way to stop kids from running up to you and tattling.” One more thing to keep in mind: For kids around 3 to 4 years old, tattling can be a sign of exhaustion. Tattling can be a source of frustration for teachers and can create a lot of negative feelings between students. However, certain dangerous situations should be reported to the teacher, and students sometimes honestly do a teacher’s need help to solve major interpersonal problems.

Here are some strategies for how to cut down on the bad kind of. For about three-quarters of tattling, the goal was for children to get help for themselves and/or to get the other child in trouble. Another 16 percent focused on enforcing rules. These are the easiest kids to deal with because you just need to explain to them that they only need to worry about themselves doing the right thing.

Knowing that tattling is against the rules because of your tattling vs. reporting lesson is. Step 1: Enforce Effective teaching requires you to never let the whole of your class suffer because of a small few. So your first order of business is to remind yourself not to respond to or call on anyone who isn’t following your hand-raising routine.

Once you prove that this is always the case, the disruptive behavior will stop.

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Set up a private conference with the school, day care, or playgroup so that the adult in charge is aware of the behavior and you all agree on the consequence (such as a brief time-out or going home).

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Another option is to move her to a different preschool so she doesn’t feel like she “stayed back” and repeated the same curriculum.

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After five or six minutes stop them all, sit them down, calm them, talk (maybe about teaching points), then set the children away again.

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Inform the child that what they must do is observe the other children and copy what they are doing, assuming what they are doing is appropriate.

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As much as possible, try to sidestep the issue by encouraging both children to play with their own toys, even if they’re doing so side by side.

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Remind the child that your office is a safe place where kids can talk about their feelings and thoughts or anything that bothers them.

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Distract, encourage, and reward with colorful toys, crayons, or stickers.

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As much as possible, try to place particularly disruptive children who are friends in separate groups.

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Schedule a team conference with the child and the parents 4.

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Repeat a baseline before teaching any behavior, even if it was baserated a few weeks earlier.

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  • This is exactly why I’m quiet and I stay in my room all day and keep to myself. If I back talk once my parents will go crazy or if I give a good reason to an argument, it is considered “back talk”

  • I can say anything back and my dad would say “Watch the attitude” Or “Stop talking back”

    I snapped one day saying “I will fall asleep eventually, chill out!” Normally I would curse and go crazy when I snap back, but I just decided to respond more… Kind I guess lmao. Idk I feel like anything I say is against me and it’s kind of stupid tbh.

  • Hi I have a little sister she is only 10 she changed a lot she became way more meaner she talked back to me a lot of times and been rude to me and my sisters and she thinks it’s self defense but no she is being rude I tell her but she talks so much sas and she has called me names before idk what’s up with her she is going to middle school I can’t imagine her being an adult hope she doesn’t get fired for talking back to her boss and hurting someone and scared she might press charges in the future I wish she learned she has changed a lot!! She stresses me I tell my older sister but sometimes I don’t because she says I get but hurt I want my mom to take my little sister somewhere so she can stop this sass

  • I talk back to my parents for GOOD reasons, they blame me for things I DIDN’T EVEN DO. Kids should have a right to reason and parents shouldn’t assume that it’s “TaLkInG bAcK”

  • Respect is given to those who have earned it. I should not be expected to blindly respect and follow someone just because they gave birth to me whether or not they wanted it to happen. Respect is mutual and avoiding a reasonable conversation with a child just because your “An Adult” is in no circumstances a respectable trait.

  • Well, it’s better nowadays, we would get slapped. Fortunately, now the law forbids those things. Maybe the law forbidded that back in the days, but it all happened behind close doors. Since I was little, I decided I would not have kids, because why would I want to bring kids in the world to suffer?

  • You guys need to stop being nazis with your kids. You fucking act like us teenagers have no freedome of thinking but really we do. And this “back talk” bullshit you speak of is just conversation.

  • I talk back to my parents and I know I’m doing it. The only reason why I do it is because I’m not the one being disrespectful and rude, but rather my parents are. So I speak out my opinion and get in trouble for it but I don’t really care. I even record them yelling at me and then me saying why the punishment is way to harsh!

  • im actually just 9 years old, but i have been given an offer for a small substitution for a CT period, for noone else would volunteer since that was labelled the worst class ever

  • DM called me a “smart aleck” (not her exact words) today for replying to her request I know I should follow with “Yes, I know,” even though I’m not sarcastic or fresh! But to her, I’m just giving her attitude. That makes me feel so bad deep down inside. I wish she would see that video.

  • As a parent and future teacher, I’m not opposed to taking away recess if my daughter is misbehaving. We don’t go out and do fun things if she’s acting out, school should be the same.

  • So consequences for innapropriate behavior are inappropriate? Right. The goal is learning constuctive, loving communication, however there are rules. See how far back talk and dismissal go when they’re in front of a judge. Or a teacher. Or after they insult someone whose parents weren’t so “evolved” and don’t accept the kid’s behavior.

  • My grand daughter was cutting herself and talking back to her mom. One day her mom starting fighting her and she thought her mom was going to really hurt her so she fought her back trying to het her off her. She’s now in counseling. I saw this coming for years and tried over and over to talk to her mother about it but she would get angry with me and shut me down.

  • I never had that problem with my son. His mom always had that problem. I raised him in my home u don’t have to love me or like me but u will respect me if something is wrong talk to me even if its bad. His mom let him have a opinion about everything since he was little and now can’t control him and always calls me. I tell parents never let your kids talk back if they are on the verge then send them away to another room then when u r both calm u will be surprise what your children tells u once there calm.

  • Ok I can understand if back talk is actually rude. But most of the time to parents back talk is kids making a valid point to there parents, but they just don’t wanna listen to it because they wanna be right. I understand if you don’t wanna agree with me but most of the time it is true.

  • Man fuck that watch your damn mouth!!!they know Exactly what they’re saying These Millennial kids are the worst they’re so Entitled!!

  • To any parents reading this: I grew up in an emotionally abusive household. Chances are you did too, you probably just didn’t realize it because it was so widely accepted before the 2000s. I implore all of you to please re-evaluate the way you react to your children and make sure you’re not doing anything that’s harming them. Your child’s emotional needs are just as important as physical. There’s a reason behind why your child is acting out. Maybe they feel like you don’t respect them, maybe they feel like they can’t talk to you because they’re afraid of your reaction, maybe the inconsistency of things is overwhelming your child who knows.
    You have to remember that the way they’re reacting is learned. More than likely they learned it from you. You are the first and best example your children go off of. Inform them and correct them gently.
    You wouldn’t respond well if someone got an attitude with you so why do you expect your children to be any different?
    Also respect your children as humans. They need guidance but they are still people.
    From a lot of the parents that I have seen with generation z one big thing they do is neglect their children’s emotional well being. Emotional Abuse is also very common. It’s not wonder a majority are extremely suicidal and depressed.

  • As a parent this ticks me off. when my child talks back and says why, I explain to him not being an ignorant prick. Unlike most parents I do not silence their ideas. When children feel contained, they fell they do not having basic freedom of speech and it affects them in the future. This leads to the child thinking they must do everything an adult tells them and not question it even if it is bad.

  • Sorry, there is no room for my child calling me “stupid”. I would never say that to her. I have tried to approach this with empathy and understanding. I don’t think your video has very much perspective.

  • I’m having back talk from my 3 year old! Tonight I told her she had to eat more dinner as she only ate a few potatoes and no meat or veggies and even though I didn’t yell or get hyper, she fired back at level 100, saying things like “you not be rude to me that’s mean no fair you’re not going to blah blah… ” It goes on but she gets mad and points fingers, it’s very frustrating when I can’t get her to calm down enough to listen to me

  • Haha! Love the tips, their hair hurts “get a wet paper towel!” Some of your students will find this video someday and be like WHAT!!! ��

  • Um I’m sorry
    but I talk back at my mom because she talks behind my back to everyone she trusts
    So I have more people who hate me than listen to what I have to say!
    So What Else Do I Do? I Talk When They Tell Me To Go To My Room, And THEY SAY I’M A BITCH, YEAH MY MOM CALLED ME THAT AND SHE SAID I DESERVE IT!!

  • Um I’m sorry
    but I talk back at my mom because she talks behind my back to everyone she trusts
    So I have more people who hate me than listen to what I have to say!

  • I think it doesn’t matter how old are you, you need to learn to regulate yourself and learn how to respect people. Saying it’s ok and having the parents to bear or look through the bad behaviour is just creating more self-centred people in the future! I wish you can look for better help! “Parenting a confident Teen” is a way better book to feel that someone is also giving us the strategy to deal with the situation when kids are not being respectful, regardless who is the person they are talking to.
    I had consulted a phycologist like this one before who had one-sided want the parents to get a grip, perhaps it’s just a lot easy to do that than coaching a teen;-)
    The behaviour change must be mutual, you just don’t hope that the kids will grow out of bad behaviour.
    I had also read some comments here: Kids! if you don’t think you are not talking badly but only your parents are overly sensitive, record it and playback and see if you like people talking to you in that manner.

  • So today in school i got in trouble because a dude said i pushed him when i didn’t so i said to him that he should get his life straight..he then told the teacher and we got spoken to outside the classroom at the wall.The teacher believed him so i stud up and said that he lied and stuff and then she was like EXCUSE ME and she was staring in my eyes like a mad bitch so i said YE and she said EXCUSE ME even louder and stuff and she was like your breaking the rules and i said i never signed them (even tho i did) she calls it back talking and she went and told all the teachers so..tommorrow she wants the rules signed so ima leave my journal at home on purpose lol.

  • I’m so fucking mad about my mom and
    Here’s a example:
    I get blamed for something I didn’t do and then I tell her I didn’t do it and stop blaming me for everything i did not do so then she would reply saying something along the lines of “STOP BACKCHATTING YOUR GROUNDED” some parents just think that they are the shit because they gave birth to you and can do what ever you want with the kid even treating them like shit. Mate even the teachers treat me better.

  • Riiiight..so when your kid says “Shut UP and go do the dishes YOURSELF!!”..(you just smile and say “oh dear u must be hurting indsde, come let me hug you and take you to Dairyqueen

  • Hi. Got I couple of questions as a high school student. We have this very smart yet uncommon teacher who’s teaching methods seem strange. Here’s what he often does:

    1. Is it a good idea to have “micro breaks”? I honestly do not know how it is called in English, however, what I mean is that (at any period of time) there’s this short break, lating for 30 seconds or so, and then the class is continuing again. The teacher who does this once mentioned that it has its reason, but never told us what the reason is. He does it in every class, tho not many people notice.

    2. Is there a reason why a teacher makes random sounds/noises during an exam/test? Not all the time, just sometimes. It almost seems as if he was trying to make us stop concentrating on the given task… Why?

    3. The class starts slowly. Usually, he just tells us some facts he personally considers as interesting, or reapeats the previous class a bit. Only after a given amount of time, he starts with the more difficult stuff, explaining a new topic.

    Here’s something in general:

    1. Isn’t it ineffective to be punishing the whole class even if the teacher knows who the “noisy” one was? That way, the kid being loud will not be as sad or angry ’cause he wasn’t the only one being punished and is not alone. So there’s a bigger chance of him doing it again.

  • “Someone saying wow I don’t know where that came from I’m interested in what’s going on for you”. I needed to hear this as an overworked mum who doesn’t always take time connect with my beautiful children.

  • How horrendous. I feel so sorry for the world you’ve all had to justify. The cognitive dissonance must drive some to madness. http://metanoia-films.org/human-resources/

  • I needed this so much! My 9 yr old and my 12 yr old have been back talking so much lately, I keep feeling very disrespected, but in watching this I have to say it makes sense why they’re acting this way. I’ve been very busy lately and haven’t given them the amount of attention they’re used to. And to be honest I’ve been separating myself from them finding chores to do instead of spending time with them because they’ve been so up and down. Which sounds like I’m only making the matter worse. Today I’m taking the steps to change my behavior.

  • I’ve made jokes to my mom here and there. unfortunately she would take them to seriously and get really mad at me. Every mistake that I’ve made in my life she would all ways bring it up in arguments. she always brings up the past. When we get in arguments, she says things that I don’t like or agree with and oftentimes i try to defend my self and the point that I’m trying to make. But she doesnt listen. I try to tell her things, but everytime we are arguing she blows it back in my face. I’m the type of person if you are accusing me of something that isn’t true, or being disrespectful to me I do unfortunately talk back. it’s hard to calm down sometimes, when you’re arguing with someone or just haveing a disagreement.

  • Back talk boils down to not wanting to do what a parent has asked. So I should say to my complaining child “Oh please let me hear more”…

  • Not all back talk is bad most that I’ve seen is an honest question or concern yet the teacher or parent punishes the child instead of answering the question or fixing the issue which turns this into the bad back talk like the kind you stated. When kids say Why? They might just be curious as to your reasons. Much of what you say is true. Then when the child meets the adult’s disrespect with respect or as respectful as possible the adult just explodes with anger. Can you help me understand why adults do this?

  • I’m starting as a substitute soon and really enjoyed your ideas. The “Mystery student” idea and “NOISE” idea, because that’s something I can implement as a substitute.

  • Hello Ms. I love to watch your videos and get so many ideas. I started my work too so please get some time to watch my video and give some useful tips. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvOQ_omvHVQ

  • But you learned that as an adult. Children need to be children. I feared my mom and it forced me to be quiet and lonely in our relationship. I tried a different approach for my kid, doesn’t work. Children need to do what they’re told because we are responsible for them and they reflect us. I ask, what’s wrong. Talk to me, don’t be frustrated. I cannot tolerate kids at their worse. Just try.

  • This is most rational thing I have heard since my year journey to find out what’s going on with my daughter and how to help her. She is in foster care and doing this. And I know it has to be so confusing to her, every one is trying to blame me for not parenting her right. So it’s blame game and no one is even focusing on her and her feelings. I try when I see her. And I realized I had to stop relating and advising.. I just listened as she told me what was going on, I looked at her and said, how did it make you feel and at the very moment I saw all of her stress released and we finally connected it was so simply but we get so distracted by putting judge ment on on another we are overlooking the poor kids they just want and need to be heard be respected and to make their on choices.

  • A parent/caregiver needs to be taught how to communicate and respond to child/teenager and vice versa. We all need to understand that as humans we all have issues which will make us respond and react differently. Everyone should be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. Everyone wants to be valued, loved, and heard. Just remember, learn to gauge what is going on in your environment and keep calm when dealing with each other. There is nothing wrong with saying I love you and will try to understand and respect you. Remember hurt, tired, and ill people will communicate out of their frustrations….one of the parties involved must calm down.

  • my  7 yrs old son  back talk me  all the  time  n  never  talk back  my  mom or sister but  it  hurt me  how  he  behave  this way  what  best  advice  can  you give me

  • whats not to love about debating with an 8 yr old. i told her i sold her twin brother to the Gypsies to buy a donkey. she was happy with that

  • Conversation is a progression of ideas, “back-talk” is the act of preventing this progress. To move the conversation backward. This is our household definition of the word back-talk. It’s a work in progress. Our kids lose screen time for back talking, so we had to define it.

  • Don’t listen to this lady, she’s teaching weak parenting. Discipline your children. Teenagers are almost adults, they know what they’re doing. And in reguards to parents not paying attention to their children unless they act out, that’s a whole other issue. Parents need to pay attention to their children or else there is no connection.

  • When ever I would try to give my opinion about things that were not rude but against them I would get grounded for “backtalking “ and still do

  • hmm i remember talking rude to my parents with the intention to hurt them sometimes. after lots of broken promises my respect was gone too. i don’t think they ever understood how painful it was, always saying one thing and doing the other.

  • What if we say something but the parents don’t understand and take it the wrong way every time so now I can’t even talk to them anymore about anything. An example is when we were driving to Home depot and I asked where she wanted me to park and she said it doesn’t matter. But the last time we went to the Home Depot she got super mad and yelled at me about where I parked. So I asked to make sure I parked where she wanted and she just said it doesn’t matter. I said “ok, but last time you got mad about where I parked” and when I parked she yelled at me again. I meant nothing about it but to make sure I parked where she wanted. She was mad and just wanted me to go alone and before I closed the door I said “ok might be longer, it’s one one person going” she yelled at me thinking that I was being sarcastic about it but actually I was just simply saying it’s gonna take longer because I have to run around the store by my self but like I said she took it the wrong way and yelled at me

  • My nephew’s stepmom slapped him in the mouth right in front of me when he “back talked”, he was talking to me, not her (I had been his most of the time caregiver before she came along, he was 3 or 4, I was SO terribly upset!!! and NoOne in my family comforted me or backed me up, the worst part was It Was Terribly Physically painful for Him, my nephew, because he had just minutes prior, tripped & bumped his mouth on a table…
    Which mean besides the pain from that, what caused him to stumble… he could have already been tired, or getting sick…
    I didn’t even see it as “back talk” I knew he was just telling me something with strong feelings! He is now a teenager and seems emotionally well… i am the one that is scarred, but I already was from my own childhood of emotional neglect… I’m watching this to share with a friend who said her 3yo son “back talks”, he is on the Autism spectrum, & I told her he isn’t capable of intentionally being rude, he is doing his best to communicate.

    Somehow I forget this with my own daughters…�� my 7yo is on the Autism spectrum & until very recently I hadn’t realized that I am also…we both and my 5yo all have a lot of repairing/healing learning to do…

  • Recently discovered your channel! OMG! So wonderful and needed right now! You’ve really opened my eyes to some things! Thank you so much and please keepem coming! Such a wonderful gentle way of explaining things everyone should know! Just lovely!

  • Hey, if you have a smartphone with a camera, you DO have a camera in the classroom. Just don’t say that it is always recording. That’s what I do!

  • What if he’s not a teenager? Mine is 10 now and he never stopped arguing since he was very little wether it is to brush his teeth or even get him to go to bed on time. It can be nerve wrecking. My husband’ s parenting style is also in conflict with mine and it makes things worse.

  • I’ve just gone through the comments and I’ve seen most people’s profile photos and everyone here seems to look errrrrrr similar (if you know what I mean) I can say I know why they’ll need this video. I really cannot relate..

  • Im a kid myself and me talking back aint about no feeling left out or not being cared about i talk back to my parents on self deffence. my parents blame me for something i did’nt do? I dont give a sh*t about talking back because im just deffending my self and i aint bo slave or robot i got the same rights that every other adult has yes i know that talking back might be a sign of disespect if it is then that means you need to learn how to be a better parent because clearly there is something you are doing wrong yet again you might not be doing anything wrong and just have a spoiled kid either way im on the kids side this video is wrong and also al the parents that need to resort to watching a video to know how to parent a kid just shows how carless you are ask your kid why they talk back ask them whats wrong and if you dont think im right about asking a kid why they are talking back and taking a calm aproach to them then you just dont love your kids or your careless.

  • My son is 9 and was recently diagnosed with Asperger’s, ADHD and OCD. As a kid, I remember feeling very similar to how he feels now. I’m struggling with the back talk now. I’m going to try harder to work on my reaction to it. That can be difficult in certain situations.

  • Oh man. I love you. I subscribed. You just saved my life and the future of my 4 year old who’s autonomy is exploding. I needed this so much. You are so wonderful, thank you, thank you, thank you.

  • Hmmm, i remember watching a video about this topic, and the teacher used this method: When you are telling me this do you want to help your friend get out of trouble? Or put him into trouble? I like your ways too, thanx ����

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  • Dear Lori, thank God I came across your channel. You are very practical. My preschooler is 3.6 years. She is not very friendly, gets angry very easily and expresses the same by shouting at other kids. Yes, I have been strict with her and was expecting all to be perfect even though I know the reality still when it comes to application I always fail. She doesn’t talk well to her father and always clings to me. Even in school she mostly is comfortable with herself. She shouts and gets angry at everyone but she never did that to me. Sometimes she is extremely stubborn. Many times I tell to myself that I failed as mother. Please help me.

    Thank you
    Jincy

  • For me personally, I would have liked if you had spoken a bit slower during the video.
    Lots of great ideas here! Make sure to give your listeners time to process.:)

  • I would love to know if you have any tips on teaching kids how to advocate for themselves. I.e. genuinely dont feel good and should ask to go to the nurse

  • I don’t want to talk back to my parents and elderly, when I talk properly and not said in a rude way they always say that I am talking back I just talk back for what is right and they don’t listen

  • I try to have a “full-service” classroom. I teach 4th/5th grade LLD students. I have lotion (hypoallergenic) on my desk and I also have a “BooBoo” box. It has band aids of all shapes, sizes, and colors. For my girls, I keep a pack of pads in my side of the closet. I have former students and even some students I’ve never actually taught who stop in to get band-aids, lotion or pads. It along with the “go get a drink of water” ” go to the bathroom” really limits the trips to the nurse.

  • I never get time to appreciate [email protected]* for helping me to increase my bad grade to higher grades so I’m here to say big thanks to you,you’re the best to all,may you continue to prosper I’m using this medium to all students outter there to reach him and he is the best you can also contact him via what’sapp (+1)5025093649.

  • Even children know their rights…. I’m used to getting slap/scolded by my mom, she started her own problem. When she ask me a question and I didn’t answered she said I’m rude. When I answered back, they say I backtalk. My mom has a reputation of a hypocrite. A lot of my relatives avoid her. Alot of them said alot of bad stuff about her which I agree. (Never admit her mistakes, relatives visit during new year. She promised to take them for a sight viewing. Went to local or overseas casinos and just dump them there and she herself went gambling.) Went I told her to stop her gambling as she nearly wasted so much money and nearly got us broke. When she have money in overseas, we live in luxury hotel. If don’t have money, live in relatives house. She even say our relatives are jealous of her the moment she get pissed when I said she got a title of gambling b**ch from relatives. Our relatives is rich, live in a mansion, children already got degree/bachelor and then theres me stuck in high school this year. My mom got arrested before and beg me to write a letter to let her out with a promise she will change her attitude. After she was let out, 2 year sentence to 6 months, she fking still the same a hole.

  • What if you’re parents acted the way you wanted them to and you became a totally different person because of that? Are you happy with the personality you have now?

  • I think it speaks volumes how much love kids want/need, that so many clever ideas for classroom management involve kids just wanting to feel special by their teachers and peers.:) Thanks for the hacks!

  • Omg! Love these! I’ve been looking for ideas working as a small group reading teacher. But I think I can use most of these. Thank you

  • Very helpful. Thank you. I’m a teaching artist and I have to teach 45 third graders and 55 fourth graders in one room all by myself twice a week. I also teach 50 middle school (grades 6, 7 and 8) students every morning.

    I have some strategies that work but I always like to learn some fresh new ones because I have been teaching art for almost 20 years. You just taught me a few new strategies that I am definitely going to use on Monday; especially the “noise” technique. I also liked the first one about the mystery group. I can use that one with all my classes. I will keep you posted.

  • Another Nurse Hack that I find really works with my kids is letting them know if they don’t feel well or if their leg hurts or arm hurts then they probably shouldn’t be playing at recess. That normally fixes the problem.

  • Note for myself:
    Mystery student.
    Tattle: “are you saying this to help them or not help them.” /are you saying this because you want to get them in trouble, or because you want to get them out of trouble. *and I will follow through on that one.

  • Some good ideas and enthusiasm. I am deeply concerned about the idea of lying to a pupil about a camera being in the room especially when you are attempting to encourage honesty. The teacher is the role model…Yikes!

  • all these white kids’ parents saying like “omg thank you so much. My daughter is only 8, now I can understand her better” lmfao my latino ass COULD NEVER

  • I love this because like you say, it isn’t vague general ideas! I’m just wondering if anyone has tried these on a Y6 class (which in England is 10-11 years old) and if they worked as well as they would with a younger classroom?

  • I’m about to start my teaching job again and I’ll try your hacks and hopefully they will work:) Appreciate your time. Thanks for sharing <3

  • I don’t think the secret symbol is going to work with the 6th grader that nonchalantly handed me a cigarette from a pack in his pocket.

  • I found the video helpful, however lying to your students is not good as if you are caught you break trust. You have good ideas. I just think if we want honesty from the kids then we should be honest with them. Thank you for the material that I can use.

  • I honestly don’t understand why Back Talk is rude. I don’t even know what it means at first. If someone can tell me that would be great.

  • I taught for 16 years in some of the toughest schools in Australia. This person is absolutely clueless. If you follow her advice God help you!

  • I am literally walking into my first teaching job in four days…a mid-life career change for this 50-year old former youth pastor.
    Classroom management statements are so very broad, so it’s great to get some practical hacks for the classroom. I’ve used things like this in my youth group settings, but this is still very helpful. Thanks for sharing:)

  • Hello,

    I am a teacher in France with children from 9 to 10 years old. I have 5 students who insult, fight and nothing change. The behavioral systems of dojo style do not work. They do not work any more. In addition it makes me tired of always putting points as if I gave a dog some sugars when he did a few things well.
    I want the insults and the fights to stop. I tried the meditation except that the 5 difficult students scream, sing,….

    Do you have any ideas?

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  • The term “back talk” has been so distorted by older people feeling like they’re entitled to some level of superiority over anyone adolescent or younger to the point that even they don’t know what it means. I’m a 17 yo high school junior and I’m constantly accused of back talk (mainly by my coach) when all I try to do is explain why I’m doing what I’m doing, stating an evident fact or for simply disagreeing with them despite having sufficient reasoning to do so.

    A couple weeks back we were heading into the weight room and had to cross the track. No big deal right? We have our runners jogging by and the coach tells us to stop for them. I stop walking a couple steps after he told us to right next to the track with the rest our group. He yells at me “What are you doing?!” I quickly look back to him startled by his seemingly random exclamation, and,starting to cross after the runners had passed, replied. “I stopped.” He catches up to me, pulls me aside and tells me that if I want to stay on the team (despite being one of our best throwers) that he isn’t having any more “back talk” from me, despite never aggravating him in any way prior. What did I do wrong? I stopped by the track like he did doing what he told me to, albeit a bit late but not so much that I’m being ran over by sweaty runners. How was this response in any way dictated?

    Later that same day, we were in the weight room, which was where we were heading, we didnt have too much time and I wanted to get at least some workout in. I’m squatting my warmup weight, and knocking them out fast as to save time for my work sets, and the coach walks by me and tells me to slow down. Now mind you I’m VERY defensive when it comes to my workout. I’ve always been a strong kid and I didnt lay around to be that way. I did physically taxing labor with my father and am constantly in the gym. Now through all this and throughout my life I’ve been prideful for my physique that I EARNED through hard work and dedication in my early years. So you can see why I’d be defensive about it. Now, accepting his knowledgeable advice, and knowing that slower reps are better for warming up, I do slow down, and with the weight still on my back say “I’m on my workset”, still startled considering he practically yelled it at me. So I rack up the weight after I’m done and he decides to say the infamous line “You’d better quit talking back if we’re gonna make this work.”

    Now I’m mad, but out of respect for his “authority” did not raise my voice as he had to tell him off, and this I’ll agree was poor word choice, but I said “I’m not talking back to you, sir. I’m saying what I’m doing.” My lord did he hate that. He gets in my face and in a bunch of jumbled up sentences tells me that I’d better quit it or I’m off the team, and nearly was.

    Now I know this was a long read, especially since it’s a YouTube comment, but this just goes to show what the term “talking back” has become. Sure I suppose saying you’re not talking back can be considered that, but with all I’ve said before, what IS it then? To me, it’s a tool used by anyone older to antagonize, downplay, accuse, dehumanize, and exercise some false level of superiority over a younger person in any scenario simply because they are older.

    So with all this said, what is talking back now?

  • I have a child from C.P.S, her mother was doing drug with her she dont listen, she talks back, she tells stories, and try to do what she wants to do.I have my grand girls that’s younger than her and she is a bad and influence on my grandkids that I am raising.She not my blood. She is my husband niece child. I even called C.P.S and told them about her and they told I have to go to court to give her back. Please help me..I had her brother to, they both was 2weeks when I got them he is 20 now and she is 12. I put him out at 16 years old, nobody couldn’t help me so I put him out of my house…Can someone help me please?

  • Im a substitute teacher for a urban school district. The students end up getting too loud and a random bloody brawl happened during music class. Then the principal blamed for me for lack of classroom management. I’ll try some of these tips especially for the tattling.