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Parents are fretting that their children are regressing, not just in academics but in social skills. AD “Socializing is a muscle,” said Susan Cain, author of “. How Parents Can Help a Child Who Doesn’t Naturally Socialize Role Play. Put that wonderful preschool imagination to good use by acting out common scenarios that your little one may Share Your Own Shyness. Chances are you’ve had a time in your life where you were feeling a bit bashful yourself.

3. Tips for helping a shy child. Provide an entry strategy.

Help your child approach a group of peers and listen, allowing everyone some time to get used to one another. Teach them to find a break in. Encourage your child to talk about his fears, and try to empathize with his experience without dismissing his concerns.

You might say, “Feeling shy can be difficult” or “Sometimes I. Successful peer interactions require a variety of skills and special ways of interacting. Parents should look for these skills in their children and help develop and model them.

Coping with failure and frustration. For many people, the toughest part of parenthood isn’t sleeplessness or dirty diapers but socializing in their new, child-centered world. In fact, research has found that almost half of. Helping the Shy Child Thrive.

Many children are labeled shy. If you understand what this term really means, you may decide that having a shy child is not such a negative quality after all. Shyness can be a help or a handicap to a child, depending partly on how it’s handled.

Shyness is a personality trait, not a fault. Differences between shy and outgoing preschool children can even be seen in their biology and in the brain (Barker, Reeb-Sutherland, and Fox, 201. The following are some easy strategies you can use, at home, to help your child overcome shyness: Don’t label your child as shy, try explaining to others that your child is slow to warm up to others but do your best to not label the behavior. My wife likewise praised Elizabeth for outgoing behaviour.

10. Praise others’ outgoing behaviour in the presence of the children. By positively commenting on the outgoing behaviour of others, a parent can help a shy child come to value outgoing behaviour while learning the specifics.

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Shy kids feel anxious and inhibited around other kids, especially in new situations.

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from Child Psychology and Development For Dummies
by Laura L. Smith, Charles H. Elliott
Wiley, 2011

Caregivers can help young shy children by being accepting and tolerant, by providing consistency and predictability, and by dispensing warmth and encouragement as the child develops interaction skills.

“Parenthood in America: An Encyclopedia” by Lawrence Balter, Robert B. McCall
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by Lawrence Balter, Robert B. McCall
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Shy children will tend to seek situations that allow peace and quiet, whereas extroverted children seek social contact.

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Recognizing that research has documented consistent associations between specific patterns of parenting and children’s likelihood of being shy, it is important to understand why some parents adopt the maladaptive socialization practices that put their children at risk.

“The Development of Shyness and Social Withdrawal” by Kenneth H. Rubin, Robert J. Coplan
from The Development of Shyness and Social Withdrawal
by Kenneth H. Rubin, Robert J. Coplan
Guilford Publications, 2010

Why would extroverted children be stressed by meeting other children, an activity that they seem to enjoy?

“Handbook of Psychology, Developmental Psychology” by Donald K. Freedheim, Irving B. Weiner, Richard M. Lerner, John A. Schinka, M. Ann Easterbrooks, Wayne F. Velicer, Jayanthi Mistry, Alice F. Healy, Robert W. Proctor
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by Donald K. Freedheim, Irving B. Weiner, et. al.
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• We help shy children gain entry into groups, especially if they have previously had limited social experiences.

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from Child Development and Education
by Teresa M. McDevitt, Jeanne Ellis Ormrod, et. al.
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Fortunately, now there are programs to help shy children gain poise and self-confidence.

“Social Development” by Ross D. Parke, Glenn I. Roisman, Amanda J. Rose
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Play groups help encourage the shy or reluctant child to participate and try new activities.

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By teaching children early the arts of social life, such as boxing, horseback riding, dancing, elocution, and similar accomplishments, we may do much to overcome the sense of shyness.

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However, it becomes a problem when a child’s shyness becomes so powerful that it prevents him from making friends or participating in social activities away from home, such as going to a birthday party or the library.

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  • It is outstanding to see my daughter read and be so comfortable over it also! It truly is indeed remarkable. Just after a week from commencing this reading guide, she can easily, in fact, spell 3-letter words by herself and definitely not from his memory! Get this reading guide by Google. The program’s name is Elena Readoρiz
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  • Your videos are really great! So interesting to understand the problem itself and how to deal with it.
    I have a serious problem with my son, and i was wondering if you could help us by making a video about the subject?
    He was always a very kind child and easily played and became friends with everyone. Since some months he goes to school and gets teased by the other boys. He doesn’t know how to defend himself and becomes very sad about it.
    On top of that he now started to tease his little sister.
    How can we help him to learn how to defend himself and not to tease others? (6 yrs old)

  • There are a few things worth trying
    Find the reasons why you suffer from shyness the first step in solving a problem is understanding why it is there.
    Be at ease with yourself this makes it easier when you are with other people.
    Challenge youself you will become more confident by taking action especially by doing activities which stretch your limits.
    (I learned these and more ideas from sebs shyness tactic website )

  • Hi I like this video, specially the tips way of conveying and concerning anxiety shyness
    . Something I also found useful for overcome shyness and social anxiety
    was Renkarter Anxiety Method Report, i am sharing this because it may be usefull to someone if anyone is interested search on google

  • Thanks I need some guidance with my 6 year old; he’s not shy at home but around strangers or when he asks for something. I’ll set a challenge like the icecream example you used.

  • Interesting video. Love how you pointed out when a kid wants something they can learn from the experience of the consequence of not asking. Both of my parents were shy kids and I wonder do we get the shy gene?
    Not Being a painfully shy kid I don’t think I would have gotten so good at chess and playing music. Can you imaging a shy kid moving to a rough neighbor hood at 12 years old? Not feeling like I fit in has plagued me most of my life. I know ppl that grew up shy like myself that were constantly ridiculed and moved to New York City where it’s pretty cool to be different…

  • First of all if I had you as my psychology teacher I would pass the class with honors ������ cause you are really engaging!!! Now that’s what I call a skill

  • I have spent months researching reducing shyness naturally and found a great resource at Sebs Shyness Tactic (google it if you’re interested)

  • I hope you can make some more videos about the relationship between the wife and her husband. And all the conflicts that they go through due to their differences. And specially, when one of them have a mental illness or depression, which affect the other spouse greatly that it might be transmitted to her/him actually!

  • Thank you very much. Very informative.
    I have experienced shyness in my childhood which adopted after watching a TV series. The main character was shy, so I wanted to be like her. Initially I was a very confident kid. But my choice changed me and my life. following series of left behind and being taken for granted scenarios. I changed when I was in my 30s. Now my daughter,a very smart kid. But she is very shy, and is often bullied by friends. How should I help her overcome her shyness. Thank you.

  • There are many components to reducing shyness at home. One plan I discovered which successfully combines these is the Seans Shy Program (check it out on google) it’s the most helpful guide i’ve seen. look at all the interesting information.

  • My son tends to talk a little slower when he’s nervous, rambles and kids that could be potentially best friends seem to turned out and either cut him off or walk away or even touch him on his arm to stop. How can I help him its eating me inside because he has anxieties from it and some times he refuses to go to school because of this.

  • Love your example of the swimming pool! Perfect timing! My 3 year old (who screams/cries at people who talk to her, that she doesn’t know) had her first swimming lesson today, and I told her “I know you can be so brave today and get in the water, follow the instructors lessons, and let them help you in the water.” I challenged her, and gave her an incentive, “you can pick out a prize today (she decided a toy at the dollar store) if you get in the water and listen to your instructor, but only if you do.” There was a bit more prep to today’s events, but the incentive was just a great way for her to push past her fear response. She smiled, laughed and did everything the teacher asked her to…a complete stranger!! What a relief, and what success! Normally she reacts, refuses, and has nightmares about the incident that night. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

  • interesting points,if anyone else wants to uncover best ways to overcome shyness try Skyarza Stop Shyness Star (just google it )? Ive heard some decent things about it and my mate got great results with it.

  • Yes didn’t work. We threw him in and took ourselves out of the loop and he got so bad they kicked him out of school. Not supporting him was a mistake

  • She was nervous of reading at the beginning worried of being wrong. Nonetheless, after 2 months of following this reading guide, she can read by herself starter novels. It’s amazing to see the outcome and results of the teaching. The program is wonderful for almost any age level. Get this guide by Google. The program’s name is Elena Readoρiz
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  • I found this to be very valuable! I have one question on allowing them to feel the consequences: why did you say not to let the child have a chance to retry the task immediately, but rather wait a day or two? Thanks!

  • LOVE this video. My son is three and definitely an observer in new situations. Going to put this on repeat to remind myself of these strategies as he grows.

  • I adopted a 2 yr old who is now 5… I put her in cheer. She’s the youngest on the team. Everyone else is 6-7 yrs old. She loves practice and knows all the cheers and dances better then her peer cheerleaders.
    Unfortunately at her first public event(pep rally) She had a major meltdown and we had to get her and leave.
    I told her it was ok and a week later at her first Jamboree she froze again and refused to cheer at the game. The coaches were noticeably annoyed and removed her from the sideline. She had to sit down the rest of the game.
    Shes small so she can’t verbally explain what’s goin on. I’m so sad for her. I don’t wanna pull her out and make her think it’s ok to quit when something is hard..
    I’m fine with her just practicing and siting in the stands with me during games… I mean I paid $250! Why can’t she??!! But I can tell everyone is annoyed and they’d rather we just leave the team…
    Note:: She does great in school… Great in small groups… This has only happened when she’s center stage, without me, and expected to perform.
    Should I take her out? Or just let her practice and enjoy herself.. and hold my ground with her coaches?

  • I’m the shy kid at school and I have two friends but people treat me different which tells me I’m going to be scared if the real world and here is my secret this girl at school keeps hurting me and I never tell until now…

  • hi everyone,
    if anyone else is   trying to find  
    how to overcome shyness and quietness  try Awsomic Shyness System (just google it)?
    Ive heard some amazing things about it and my brother in law got great results  with it.

  • Lol ok in reality kids in middle and high school don’t want their parents or guardians breathing down their necks about their friends they want to have fun and try new things that their parents maybe disapprove or maybe frown upon. Can’t say this helped at all or if I’d teach my kids this cause growing up as a shy child myself l learned that it’s just something you grow out of not something parent involvement can’t really majorly change.

  • I really like the part of not saying “I told you so”. I think I need help with that and make sure not to do it if something goes wrong.

  • How to get ur child to make friends
    step 1: ur child has ti be named Daniel if he’s not give up

    step 2: but him J’s

    Step 3: send him to school

    after these steps are done you will hear people compliment ur child by saying Damn Daniel them J’s crisp or fresh

  • I welcomed all that you have advised us. i avoided having my daughter being taught using words and whole language approach and that is because of your reading program And I’m looking forward to see my kid becoming one of the most excellent student in school soon.

  • My child is very shy, especially in school, he feel him inadequate, incapable to do something even though he is very talented, I think he feel he must do everything perfectly, perfectness make him feel incapable

  • here’s a few tips you can try
    Work out why you are shy the first step to solving a problem is to understand why it is there.
    Be at ease with yourself this makes it less difficult when you are with other people.
    Just do it you will gain confidence by taking action especially by doing activities which stretch your limits.
    (I learned these and more ideas on Sartar Shy Method site )

  • Good info the greatest success that ive had was with the Seans Shy Program (i found it on google) definately the most helpful idea i’ve tried.

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  • Hi, what do you do if your child doesn’t participate or do the challenge meaning doesn’t order or talk to strangers? We are going to try again but I want to be prepared.