How FOMO Impacts Teens and Youthful Adults

 

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But with the advent of social media, FOMO has become an even bigger issue especially for young people who seem to always be online, checking status updates and posts by their friends. So, when young people miss a party, do not go on a family vacation one summer, or do not attend the school dance, they can feel a little less cool than those who did and posted photos online. Teens can be heavily impacted by FOMO because of how pervasive it can be on social media.

Seeing posts from friends or peers at an outing or an activity via social media can trigger this, which can cause issues of low self-esteem and self-doubt among other struggles. A 2013 review study on FOMO defined it as “the uneasy and sometimes all-consuming feeling that you’re missing out—that your peers are doing, in the know about, or in possession of more or something better than you.” And three-quarters of young adults reported experiencing this uneasy feeling. Of course, people of all ages experience FOMO. A Favorite Quote from the FOMO Show: FOMO can cause the amygdala to tell us we are in danger, creating fear and anxiety. High Points of the Discussion about FOMO and the Impact on Our Teens: FOMO is the fear of missing out, being afraid someone, somewhere else is having more fun or a better experience than you are.

How FOMO Affects You It seems likely that too much FOMO has a negative effect on your mental health. People who are extremely concerned with what peers, neighbors, coworkers, or others are doing may have feelings of anxiety, low self-esteem, and loneliness. Studies have linked the use of social media to depression, anxiety, poorer sleep quality, lower self-esteem, inattention, and hyperactivity — often in teens and adolescents. The list goes on. FOMO was robustly linked to higher levels of social media engagement.

When people curtail their social media usage, they report lower levels of loneliness and depression. When people are aware of the time they spend on social media (self-monitor), they report less anxiety and FOMO. The fear of missing out (FOMO) has become pervasive in society. Teens and adults text while driving, because the possibility of a social connection is more important than their own lives (and. It’s prevalent especially among young adults in Western society.

And while fear of missing out has always been there, the explosion of social media has launched our young people. Other studies also have observed links between high levels of social media use and depression or anxiety symptoms. A 2016 study of more than 450 teens found that greater social media use, nighttime social media use and emotional investment in social media — such as feeling upset when prevented from logging on — were each linked with worse sleep quality and higher levels of anxiety.

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It causes ‘FOMO’, fear of missing out state among teenagers, which they feel left out or missed.

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from Education on Digital Cultural and Social Media
by Dr. S. Saileela and Dr. S. Kalaivani
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In a number of psychology studies, FoMO was linked to excessive use of social media platforms for activities for social purposes, and even the development of a social relationship with social media platforms (Przybylski et al., 2013).

“Multidisciplinary Perspectives on Media Fandom” by Dunn, Robert Andrew
from Multidisciplinary Perspectives on Media Fandom
by Dunn, Robert Andrew
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Several studies have concluded that anxiety rises when teens cannot check their devices and experience fear of missing out (FoMO) [50] when they cannot check in with their friends through social media or text messaging.

“Technology and Adolescent Mental Health” by Megan A. Moreno, Ana Radovic
from Technology and Adolescent Mental Health
by Megan A. Moreno, Ana Radovic
Springer International Publishing, 2018

Therefore, it’s arguably important to keep consumers away from the adverse effects of FOMO.

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from Creating Marketing Magic and Innovative Future Marketing Trends: Proceedings of the 2016 Academy of Marketing Science (AMS) Annual Conference
by Maximilian Stieler
Springer International Publishing, 2017

The study also suggests that FOMO is highly correlated to negative emotions such as insecurity, envy, and anxiety.

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from Black Women’s Mental Health: Balancing Strength and Vulnerability
by Stephanie Y. Evans, Kanika Bell, Nsenga K. Burton
State University of New York Press, 2017

FOMO can have an adverse effect on people’s lives, as an obsession with wanting to keep up with what everyone else is doing, can lead to user fatigue and other adverse consequences.

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FoMO may be particularly important during adolescence, but it also may be especially relevant for understanding how or why individuals with narcissistic tendencies use social media.

“Handbook of Trait Narcissism: Key Advances, Research Methods, and Controversies” by Anthony D. Hermann, Amy B. Brunell, Joshua D. Foster
from Handbook of Trait Narcissism: Key Advances, Research Methods, and Controversies
by Anthony D. Hermann, Amy B. Brunell, Joshua D. Foster
Springer International Publishing, 2018

They develop ‘fear of missing out’ (FOMO), which is associated with lower mood and lower life satisfaction (Pryzbylski et al, 2013).

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Many teens and young adults suffer from a “fear of missing out” (FoMO) that arises due to concerns that they are missing out on rewarding experiences that their friends and acquaintances might be having.65 Curiously, this fear leads to the frequent checking of social media posts.

“Tech Generation: Raising Balanced Kids in a Hyper-Connected World” by Mike Brooks, Jon Lasser
from Tech Generation: Raising Balanced Kids in a Hyper-Connected World
by Mike Brooks, Jon Lasser
Oxford University Press, 2018

FOMO can become obsessive and even pathological, and it probably plays a role in the depressing picture of a family sitting around the dinner table, all looking at their phones.

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  • Definitely want to go back to the old days when there wasn’t any social media bugging me. It was better running around outside and playing with friends instead of being at home doing nothing all day, just liking random posts on Instagram and Twitter

  • I can’t hardly relate to this at all. For me, I understand FOMO as sitting alone at a park, watching multiple happy families play games and laugh with each other. I see the joy of happy parents with happy kids, and young lovers playing the awkward game of romance… and I sit alone, wishing I had more intimate relationships. Wishing I had my own family, really.

  • This video is super interesting! I have learned a lot of things and I will think about my use of social media now. I also liked the use of thoses drawings, they make the video look super fun! Btw, could you put more links on where you found all the informations? Thanks ☻☻☻

  • Gr8 video. I’m kinda on the JOMO end, Joy Of Missing Out. I actually see this world going down a really destructive path where social media and all of this excessive attention seeking, pretense and jealousy is concerned. Most aren’t even happy and are really faking It so we should not be too anxious to fit in. Work on the self, do the things that you love, have a positive attitude towards life and you’ll surely find your tribe, your passion and your true place in this life.

  • I have a colossal case of Fomo. I mean every single little decision requires atleast 5 minutes of thought. My mother always says, which one would you feel guilty for not doing? If you say “Im gonna do it” and your heart sinks, that’s probably not what you should do. Ofcourse, it’s still difficult and has way more layers, but that helps with narrowing it down. If it’s something you could do anytime or more often, do the other thing.
    I’ve found that my Fomo I most likely connected to my parents divorcing. Always having to choose rather I should go or just stay at home
    It sucks, but there’s always a way to take the edge off and either way you gotta make a decision

  • You know i didnt realize that is all me. As a kid being the youngest and 5 year gap i got left out allot and now i stand on the sideline waiting and hoping to be asked to join and even then im not that much fun to be with… it sucks… need to learn how to change that because when i am truly myself, im amazing… sadly it doesnt come out very often… need to learn how to do that too. Thank you for sharing this.

  • I didn’t realize exactly what this was and how my full social agenda was my anxiety about sitting in my own presence. Yet another life changing thought so thank you Stephanie!

  • I am addicted to the Internet and I’ve never taken any drugs, but I often feel like my behaviour and state-of-mind somewhat resemble drug addicts that I see on the streets and on TV. ��

  • Here I am, on a Friday night at 11pm in bed in my pjs while my friends are at a party getting drunk and making out with girls. FOMO sucks

  • I don’t think I feel that much fomo…or at least i didn’t until my nephew and niece were born this year. Now I’m constantly anxious about what new things in their lives I’m missing out on. Babies change so quickly and no two are the same. I’m terrified of what I’m missing every day that I don’t see them. I don’t suppose anyone has any advice on how to deal with this particular type of fomo?

  • Simplest method is to never participate. Never joined Assbook, Twits or Instant Craniotomy. Never will.

    Never needed to be validated, seek approval or attention…

  • Realised the less time I spend on social media the happier I am more productive and no need to compare myself to others I am able to be more focused.

  • I get this really bad, especially the constant comparison based on social norms. I’m wondering if it’s connected to BPD? Or bipolar/depression

  • It’s interesting because we can see the consequence of the social media in your life. Like your life after like the life of other.

  • The grass is always greener equals you’ve opened up a want which leads you to the truth of yourself which is the Thumbelina like little girl who feels small and is hungry for truth, for belief, and for meaning in life. It means ya need to tell yourself the truth over emotion and build meaning, satisfaction, and good memories so that vs looking externally in longing for life from the world, you feel your own.

  • Hello everyone, Hope you’re all doing well!
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    All you will be required to do is fill in three online questionnaires. All of the data will be completely anonymous!

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  • My social media logbook

    Email> 1 minute a day
    Google> 5 minutes a day
    Watsapp> 5-10 minutes a day
    Netflix> 1 hour a day
    Youtube> 6+ hours a day

    And wait 6+?!?!?

    Aaaarggggg!!!!������ naaaaa i hate youtubeee!!!! Screw youtube
    I am to addicted

  • SOCIALIZING IS PART OF SOCIETY….UPPER��SOCIETY…..Which is never needed…It’s an additive….Not a minus….Be THY’ SELF’…..

  • i thought it is trading related term with panic selling being the opposite of it, on the other side of the fence). Never heard of it in any other context, but I am not a native speaker.

  • I’m just overall badly addicted to being on my phone even when there’s nothing on it. I wasn’t like this at all years ago until people were kept telling me to create an IG or a Facebook etc, I was more of an active wanted to skate board or go for a walk now I can’t spend a second without trying to check all my social media. I hate it and can’t stop it’s like addictively unhealthy and ruining my life.

  • 4:07 4:23 I wonder if the stress of appearing better diminishes self-worth as well because you’re aware you’re perpetuating a lie.
    Does a polished self-presentation create a stress response?

  • that ending shout out would have been better used in a different video one that dosent mention fomo so that it dosent conflict with this videos message. eg. if your feeling fomo be more honest on social media and disconnect if you need to to spend time on self reflection

  • Sooo, I watched another video not too long ago where this guy was talking about social media literally creating a rift in our species where the part that used social media would have one sort of psychology and the part that didn’t had another sort of psychology. Everything in this video is buzzing with stuff that’s relative to those who use social media. Up until a few months ago I was an avid user of facebook and instagram, but weaned myself off both by uninstalling the apps and treating them like an addiction instead of harmless entertainment. I now have facebook installed on my phone and only use it for marketplace and use the messenger app to talk to people. Where I’m going with this also is that I used to be very fearful of missing out, mainly because instead of only having the option to engage with people person to person via messenger, as in not having the option to pop into their page, see what they’d shared and chosen whether or not to leave a comment I simply didn’t know what they’d been up to and had to ask them. Boom, no feelings of FOMO because the only way I could’ve known what they were up to was by asking them. Actually it’s not that there’s no FOMO because occasionally I’ll have to say no to doing something cool because I don’t have enough money and they’ll tell me that it’s cool and later they’ll tell me they’ve done it with somebody else but they hope I can come next time. That’s a pretty normal level of FOMO in my opinion though as opposed to the increased anxiety from literally watching people’s lives online with no obligation to engage. PS I talk to these people offline doing the same thing as well lol. Messenger is a sort of a middle ground between facebook and talking face to face to me.

  • That’s what they want, Instagram wants you to be addicted and to control your life. The way the algorithm works is that if you use it every day, and post frequently, then your reach will be higher, but if you hardly use it, or only post once every couple weeks, your reach will be low. So Instagram are bullying you into using it everyday for your reach to be higher. Disgusting really.

  • Healthy nir i dont KNOW whos cheating and. Im fine by self usually boit 2 years however u cant be a groups punching bag… And my family usyo all get quiet when i wzlk in.. Shady or a prem within group wjo kmnows maby money or estate or re planned arrangements…
    But when urnever invited andother person is cheeting if tanles turned the jellious and trust would not allow…i can give total attention is the other person is welcming and not competive..

  • The tribal aspect is exactly why we miss war. It breaks life down to its simplest form, kill or die. I will never have a bond as strong as I did with my brothers. Since I got out it feels like a part of my soul is missing.

  • Hi, I found this video very inspiring and was wondering if I can use this video for a not-for-profit cultural exchange program to introduce social media? Thank you!

  • I am happy that I can plan my own time. This means for example that I don’t attend at social meetings, party’s if I don’t want to. I don’t feel down when I miss out on events. I don’t need to have every weekend fully booked. I can hang around in my house, do my stuff there, go cycling, go walking, gardening, reading. Maybe it is also an mature issue. I am now over my 40’s. I am done with ‘I must do this, I must do that’ way. I can do so many things by my own, but of course it is also nice to share time with others. But it is not a must.

  • idk if this is foo so tell me today i missed the class feild trip to a lake no big deal righ? no i feel horrible and jealose that everyone else went and have been watching al there snap storys to see if they went and it turns out every one went now im feeling fomo

  • I am just watching this bc i was in my bed, but i started to panic when thought about, life really short i can only get about 100 year old and then im gone forewer.������

  • When your life situation seems dull and undesirable, you start to glare over how others have it.
    The change Won’t happen through wishful thinking, only action bridges dream to reality.

  • TBH without Computers/Internet I would’ve probably learnt way less especially not having social skills and a social circle…so no FOMO without many connections…and especially no FOMO for me because I don’t feel left out when i’m not personally seeing or talking to Ppl. Need to balance that stuff out so you know what you want and need.

  • id love to travel & adventure but also have a fear of being on my own so being on my own is cause of fomo cos i want to be everywhwere with everybody so i dont have to be on my own

  • I’m dealing with being missed out so I have too much fear I’m dealing with all of that it worries me now I feel like I’m a failure it’s scary I am afraid I’m going to lose what I was before i was so much passionate I’m scared of it scared that the people I had will find someone sweeter than me which i hope it won’t happen

  • I gave it up. All of it. So much of it is fakery. There is hardly such a thing as “no filter” anymore, and there never really was. Life is so much better lived focusing on yourself and living your truth… and not examining the half truths of the world around you. Your diet is so much more than what you eat. Your company is so much more than the physical bodies you surround yourself with. It’s the people you follow, it’s the media you tune into, it’s the belief system you have adopted in childhood, it’s the thoughts you think about others and yourself. Social media is often just cheap, metaphorical junk food a product being sold that does not exist in reality. Remember that.

  • I am an orthodox Muslim and I know highly educated Muslim saints who do not use technology much. Genuine faith is the best way to overcome FOMO.

  • Atleast I got to know what i am going through. Yes I do suffer from fomo but I’ll make sure it leads me to something good. In the end I’ll be someone better.

  • now we know many people have better life than we are, also worst than we are…….rich will marry rich. and poor will marry poor. our world…..����

  • Does your body still get stressed even tho you don’t “feel” any stress?
    Like say one of my parents died and I got sad for a bit but then I was “fine”. Or if I haven’t met any friends for like half a year, that means I am left out and experiencing loss, but I don’t feel stressed/bad about it. Does my body still “take damage” from stress or do I have to feel the stress to take damage from it?

  • Thank you for covering this topic. If you ever have time or interest, can you please cover anxiety at nighttime and how it disrupts sleeping?

  • There is a simple way of preventing FOMO. Dont connect to people. Dont trust people. Dont care for people (except those whom you are legally required too care for).

  • Not related, but is there anything about people who just don’t feel jealousy?
    Because in recent years it has come to my attention that I’m weird. I don’t feel jealous. More accurately, I think I am unable to feel it. I feel other emotions a little too strongly, but jealousy just doesn’t happen.
    If a partner cheats on me, I’m not upset over the cheating. I’m angry that he didn’t accept my offer for a open relationship and I’ve been monogamous this entire time. Friends hang out without me, I’m absolutely fine with it. Someone else is a friend’s “best friend” and I just accept that.

  • You have such a calm, mature voice. Also, your narc seriously messed up. I hope he watches all these videos and gets the extensive help he needs.

  • I see how much FOMO is causing worry and sadness to my young clients in my practice. A few other tips we are discovering with my young friend’s help is to get to know a few close friends you have really closely and make an effort to spend meaningful time with them. Plan meaningful community service together with these friends to give of yourself and and your spare time. Talk about your positive as well as vulnerable feelings in terms of how you spend your time and what are your priorities and why. This way you develop a real sense of your own higher self in consultation with those among your friends and family that you are close to and you have great respect. Journaling and praying daily to have opportunities of making a difference to make this world a better place will also give you a greater sence of satisfaction and independence. Keyvan Geula LMFT

  • Ever shown someone a band or artist that they hate and refuse to listen to. Suddenly, you’re struggling to find a ride to that artist concert that THEY are attending with their new friend that doesn’t even listen to them and not you?

  • Yep! it is.. best way is to leave social media forever like I did.. now I feel less fomo.. cuz If I’m not aware then I don’t care. and got my life back in control! Now I control which people I want to hang out with in my terms. as simple as this:)

  • When I see people I know doing things together I just feel left out. I’m talking about people I’ve interacted with a couple times, this makes me feel lonely cause I don’t have a huge friend group so yeah.:/

  • Tbh the worst thing technology has done to me is googling and boredom

    Googling: i normally google for info alot, i was out one day trying to remember something that happened to me and a friend, i pulled out my phone, about to search it till i realized what i was doing.

    Boredom: im normally extremely bored without wifi or a phone, luckily i do traditional art as well.

  • I goto to youtube to do my study or things that is related to my job, but end up wasting my time and concentration at watching stuffs that are knowledgeable but actually not helpful to my life. I lost my judgement and forget the purpose I come to youTube or social media. Most of the time I watched social media or youtube stuffs just to entertain myself and prevent myself from getting bored. But now i think it is ok to feel bored, we need to spend more time ourself doing yoga and exercise. Stop using social media and write down purpose for using youtube, this will prevent us from wasting time and concentration.

  • I might get one cell phone call a month and pretty well zero text messages. How? Easy, I don’t hand out my number. The phone is there to serve me, to make an advance hotel reservation when I am on vacation or if I happen to have an emergency (ultra rare). I am not going to be a slave to it. And in the end, if you looked at all the text messages going back and forth, you’d laugh at the content.

  • I don’t really feel like I have a social group, so I almost never feel FOMO. That said, I do acutely feel the lack of other human interaction…

  • Hey this is hardly a new phenomenon. Social media platforms didn’t invent or cause this. It’s been around since Year Dot. It use to be called “Keeping up with the Joneses.” A lot of people make it out to be recent, blaming social media platforms for this. But it’s not new it’s very Very old…… ☮️⚛️

  • They are gonna hate either way. No matter what. Up, down, sideways. Lies and truth. I found joy in the mundane and the grind. Its turned into the grandiose. I’ve learned to take the extravagance home to enjoy my peace alone. Say what they will I have the memories and am forever humbly grateful to have had my turn on this rock valleys and peaks.

  • Is it bad that i want to be accepted in a group? I felt that fomo when i saw pics of them on a night out. I felt isolated maybe and i envied that get together.

  • Infinite respawns and the option to prestiege at a high level would be a cyborg solution, but if you don’t know thats waiting for you, yea I guess people should load up on new memory creation by experiences while they’re still accessable in your (only?) life

  • So if you don’t have friends, are you immune to fomo, or do you have the worst and most severe version of it? ��

    Uhh… asking for a friend.

  • Very wise words indeed.

    Negative emotions are often a signal that something isn’t quite right in your life. When you feel negative emotions, your goal shouldn’t be to get rid of them or “overcome” them. Your goal should be to resolve the problem at the source.

  • It’s weird the source of what he says FOMO comes from is something I struggle with: Am I loved, am I significant? But I can’t quite understand how the two are connected…

  • I’ve been missing out on cool things since I was a little boy.
    I’ve gotten so used to it that it would feel weird not to miss out on cool things people are doing.
    Like, I was invited to a party but I legit don’t want to go because it would feel bizzare actually being part of something.

  • Very soothing and helpful for hard times thank you so much I look forward to hearing more about that you talked about was pretty good cuz I kind of am feeling that today

  • I don’t care about my profile pic, or connection with friends and family, or being significant or loved. does that mean I’m broken?

  • Fomo dates back to the age of tribes. There were not so many middle grounds of suburban environments either you were rural or surrounded by people. In the development of suburban areas, early industrial England shows us. We separate ourselves into sets based on favored idealisms. (Sets can turn into cultures) modern American school systems shows us just what kind of extremes we can come across with this concept. We’re boiling to a point to majority of our social media lovers and our crowd drawn individuals have a very suburban lifestyle. We all have our own perceptions of good and bad and we want to be apart of that idealistic group. Finding acceptance from the individuals we admire gives us a gratification that we are accomplishing the goals we set for ourselves. Social behaviors have been made to seem so easy that if we’re not able to get that flattery, we see faults in our own phycology. That leads us to believe we need to reevaluate our goals. If we are unable to find fault in our process we become depressed from the hopelessness, we feel in finding a cure for the conflict. Depression can physically assault our immune systems leading us to become ill and malnourished.. Just because we’re thinking to much about the acceptance of the individuals we admire and hope to obtain mimicry.

  • This is exactly what I’m dealing with. I run myself ragged trying to constantly be doing something. Scared of being alone. One thing I fear is being forgotten by everyone I care about. Do you think this is an abandonment issue? It gives me panic attacks thinking I’ll be forgotten…great knowing I’m not alone.

  • Social Media and Mental Health While many of us enjoy staying connected on social media, excessive use can fuel feelings of anxiety, depression, isolation, and FOMO. Here’s how to modify your habits and improve your mood.

    https://ihtirafnet.blogspot.com/2020/05/social-media-and-mental-health.html

  • Yeaah do that try to focus on yourself great advice when someone is likely experiencing inferiority complex and low self-esteem leading him to FOMO..How amazing!

  • I often feel like I’m missing out but almost never on the internet. I do follow friends so it’s not just being disconnected. I don’t have facebook but i use twitter, tumblr, discord and youtube so eh?

  • FOMO: “anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on a social media website.”

    That’s just silly, of course exciting or interesting events are happening all over the world all the time. They have been since before you were born and they will continue to long after you’re dead.

    I’m not trying to make light of people dealing with this but it really seems more like childish “me me me” greedy behavior. Although i suppose in its own sense that’s a mental illness too.

    Sometimes i feel like i might be missing out on some things but that’s all on me, if i really wanted i would try and join some of these “events”

    For the most part other than watching the odd youtube video i don’t partake in any social media it just seems silly and pointless. If i want to know what my friends are up to i will message them on Discord or simply phone them. I used to spend countless hours on sites such as facebook, and to be honest shutting down my account was one of the best choices i’ve made for myself.

  • we’re suppised to seek for the most experiences possible, that means yes, we should use the internet for such, but in a way that doesn’t make us addicted, and that blocks us from other experiences. Getting the most experiences possible means not chosing things that will stop other experiences, be it yours or someone else’s

  • Hi Stephanie! My names Angel! I’ve been watching your videos for the past week, and you’ve changed my insight on so much! I’m so grateful to have ran across your page! You’re amazing, and keep up the good work! Your such an inspiration❤️

  • The only reason I saw this video is because I was catching up to five days of youtube videos after a camping trip. I’m subscribed to 937 (no kidding!) channels. Maybe I do need help.

  • The paradox with FOMO is that we ALWAYS miss out on something. You can do only one thing at a time and there’s infinite number of other things you could be doing. My solution to FOMO is to make maximum of the current situation, because when you ignoring present moment you also miss out on that thing you ARE doing!

  • I was seven when Cameo released ‘Word Up’ I was the ideal age to enjoy it fully without needing to be ironic. And there was nothing before or since Word Up. Most people have missed out in my view.

  • It’s really insecure extroverts posting all the time which is being watched by insecure introverts who are feeling bad about it. Crazy cycle in the world that we live in today. Unintended consequence of social media. Social media is actually a real clinical addiction for many people. People wasting hours and hours of their life and their human potential spectating others.

  • I have reverse FOMO. When I am with people I always think of all the awesome, fun, productive, creative things I could be doing if I were alone playing piano, painting watercolors, calligraphy, photography, writing, reading, working out, fine-tuning my home,…

  • I had severe FOMO even before social media got mainstream. Just knowing that i would be missing out on things (like parties, where a lot of my friends will go and I’m pretty sure they will talk about it a lot after and i won’t be able to relate to the cool stuff that happened) makes me feel really anxious and super jealous. Social media just makes it more hard (like boss level hard) but i think the most important thing to do to overcome FOMO is to feel secure in being yourself, slowly make yourself understand that there will be things that you can’t go/do and that’s completely okay. You do you. and when you accepted that fact, it would be easier for you not to get jealous and have FOMO. I know FOMO would seem superficial to others but mannn having FOMO is really mentally tiring actually ��

  • After watching your video…I found that I have this same problem since a long time…but I am not able to point out what exactly my problem is….now I have clarity about my problem and ofcourse solution as well…thank you friend

  • A Simple Neural Hack to end Distraction and get off the internet!
    Distraction is hard to resist because it is an affective state, as it is embodied by increases in dopamine levels due to the novel outcomes implicit in distractive events. Dopamine adds transitory utility or value to moment to moment decisions and is harmful to effective decision making when it is not aligned with long term goals, as we well know by succumbing daily to social media, emails, and other distractors. The best way to eliminate distraction is to pursue meaningful activities that have more significant affective outcomes, or to induce greater positive affect by managing the unique ways incentive motivation works in the human brain. To demonstrate this latter point here is an easy procedure to increase meaningful behavior, accentuate positive affect, and eliminate distraction.
    Simply follow a simple resting protocol (mindfulness procedure is best for this), and simultaneously pursue or anticipate pursuing meaningful behavior (e.g. cleaning house, writing poetry, exercise, etc.). Do this continuously for standard sessions of a least a half hour and chart your progress. As a result, you will be more pleasurably alert, engaged, and incented to continue being productive and resist distraction. Neurologically, this is due to ‘opioid-dopamine’ interactions, or the fact that rest is pleasurable due to the induction of opioid activity in the brain. Meaningful activity on the other hand induces dopaminergic activity, which is felt as a state of alert arousal but NOT pleasure. Opioid and dopamine neurons are located adjacently in the midbrain, and when both are simultaneously activated will also co-stimulate each other, resulting in enhanced feelings of arousal and pleasure. Indeed, when rest is accompanied by highly meaningful behaviors (creating art, athletic achievement), pleasure and alertness are highly accentuated, resulting in ‘peak’ or ‘flow’ experiences. So, there is my procedure to increase productivity and reduce distraction, and all without inspirational screeds, lectures, books, or seminars, with the added benefit that you can prove or falsify my hypothesis for yourself, give or take an hour!

    This interpretation is based on the work of the distinguished neuroscientist Kent Berridge of the University of Michigan, a preeminent researcher on dopamine and motivation, who was kind to vet the work for accuracy and endorse the finished manuscript.
    Berridge’s Site
    https://sites.lsa.umich.edu/berridge-lab/

    I offer a more detailed theoretical explanation in pp. 47-52, and pp 82-86 of my open source book on the neuroscience of resting states, ‘The Book of Rest’, linked below.
    https://www.scribd.com/doc/284056765/The-Book-of-Rest-The-Odd-Psychology-of-Doing-Nothing

  • Stephanie, i don’t worry about missing out! Actually, i don’t need to seek happiness from outside social events. I am very content being home, or doing things by myself. It’s not to say i don’t enjoy going out to socialize with others at various social events, but i find my greatest contentment on my own, creating my own happiness, “filling my own cup”. I ‘m not jealous of those who are constantly out and about and then posting it on social media. All that posting of look who i’m with, and where i’m at is very much, in my opinion, the need of attention and “look at me and my great life!” I’m an introvert and an empath and i enjoy the peace and quiet of my own company. Actually, i have had people that are out and about most of the time tell me there is something wrong with me because i enjoy being home, or not running to find outside stimulation. I am who i am and i’m comfortable with me being me. FOMO, not even close. Thanks Stephanie! You are beautiful and wise,and i very much enjoy your videos and the guidance they provide for me. Be well, take care.

  • I suffered a lot from FOMO, but I just stopped using Facebook a few year ago and I feel happier now, I don’t need to know everything other people do and they don’t need to know my stuff either, it really made me depressed.

  • Thank you for all your great content Stephanie!! I was wondering if you could share insights on how to overcome the constant want to check for phone for messages from people and feeling sad when there is nothing for you? Thank you!

  • It’s funny.. I have fomo because my husband left me and so I can’t be part of his family get togethers… it’s funny because I always hated those get togethers…��

  • Idk if anyone would reply to me. Someone pls give me advice….all my best friends are going on a Disney Trip in May that I was suppose to go on, but my mom didn’t want me to go anymore because she felt it wasn’t safe. Now, that’s where my Fomo kicks in because for the past few weeks I’ve been crying because I can’t go and because I’ll be left out from all my friends. What scares me is that my friends don’t won’t want me around anymore because of how close they’ll all get in the trip. I’m scared they’ll forget me but idk what Will happen to me if they do leave.

  • Hi Stephanie, im turning 30 soon and it’s really getting me down. I had so many plans and hopes for this stage in my life that aren’t even on the horizon anymore. I’m recently single after a bad breakup from a relationship of 8 years. How can I support myself during this time? Thanks for your videos, they are so enlightening

  • This is BS. Marriage, for example, is not more likely, or relationships forged online more successful. Is that supposed to mean that the one live date you went on being so/so means success? Even after the hundreds of profiles you had to rifle thru, and the dozens of people who just wanted to be sexy pen pals??? This report is a lie, just a flat out lie, wake up people!!! (Lowered Expectations ������lololololoFOOLS)

  • We should be giving our time to explore our surroundings, yes. Seriously, right now, we know more about our Facebook friends than we know about our neighbours.

  • I feel better about how I am. I do get fomo but it’s not as bad as others I know have. I am much happier not on social media.

    For lack of better words…… I always get shade thrown at me for being ok with sitting alone and having alone time.

    I prefer having quality conversations one on one rather then big groups.

  • its contradictory because the ways we try to deal with our fear of missing out is what lead us to miss out on life. The example he gave for thr questions that fuels our FOMO (“am I significant?”) only serves for people for some contexts, but FOMO extends deeper, for example the fear of not being accepted socially, the fear of not knowing as much as others or inferior because of any other lack of something the internet could bring you. We just need to be careful so that our fear of missing out makes us miss out on more stuff than if we just were fine, and make sure that what we are doing doesnt lead to more FOMO.

  • Your FOMO is different from my FOMO. My FOMO is based on that I am going to miss out on Andromeda crashing into our galaxy. Of course, this will happend a few million, perhaps billions of years in the future. The simple fact is that I won’t be here to experience the beautiful night sky.:(

  • I was alone for four years. My husband never took me anywhere or out to eat, even associate with his guy friends which I am sure had girlfriends or wife’s. Which he never wanted these people to know me because he himself is narissistic which I am finding this out. By learning from your videos and others. By being alone I have been alone and when I was I would find to where I would be dancing all over the house and when he came in it would never fail he would make the rest of my day a living hell. And I would lose that happiness that was in me. So being he would stay gone riding motorcycles with friends doing things with his friends going to the bar with friends and of course going to motels and having affairs. I never asked to be in his world and I am not a person who stays at home all the time. we were at one time always together and Bam all of a sudden he didn’t want me to go no where with him. So that was when I knew he was having affairs. And of course he would lie. And I have caught him with one and he had said it was a guy. Yeah, right. Well I am learning more and more about this abuse because yes I have been in physical abuse and I have never been with someone that would be cold and evil to put mental abuse. So it has been very hard on me. And I mean very hard. He had lied to my family and most of all what I hate the most he had lied to a dieing man which was my father. And before my father hit bad off. I told him if you are going to leave me I want you to leave me now. I want you to leave before dad dies. Because my father had been my rock. And we would always talk about things that we would not talk to my mother. It was just between me and him. So if course he stayed. And not to long after dad had passed he left me abondon me. And of course he blamed me because I wouldn’t shut my mounth. He was never home,never took care of our house and wouldn’t get a job. So how can I be alone with out a man. I don’t like living alone I like the companionship. But want someone to treat me as the way I should of been treated. I wanted that life if 25,50 years of marriage. I wanted that for myself and hoping that I would if found that man that wanted that to. But if course I was wrong. I have been married enough to know that my dream is gone. So now I don’t have nothing for myself. And that is sad. But life goes on and you deal with what cards are dealt to you. But I am watching all these videos to see how to get through this of what I didn’t ask to be treated this way. This is new to me and I know a difference in me and I don’t like it. Because this isn’t me. Thanks for your videos because this is a silent abuse and alot of women and men has no clue that is what is happening to them. And it needs to be well know. I will be listening to more of your videos. Hoping that I will catch on and make my life alittle bit better. Thanks.

  • If I got a message from people at an obnoxiously loud and bright party, I’d think: “Thank god I’m not there, that sounds horrible.”

  • Hi Stephanie I love following you. You truly have helped me understand narcissism and helped me to stand up for myself. And I now have the tools to do that. But I’m finding I am extremely angry at the people who I have allowed to treat me so badly. How can I stop or change this anger and be the peaceful, kind person I use to be. When I have to be around these mean family members I find myself waiting for that one word to come out of their mouths so I can tell them off and stick up for myself. Now that I have power I’m just always angry especially at myself for allowing the abuse to go on for so many years. Please help. Thank you.

  • Would you be able to do a video on your personal healing journey? Especially what your lowest point looked and felt like and how you got to mmmmm self love. In a world where we see everyone’s highlight reels on Instagram, it would help a lot of us figure out how to start. Thank you for considering!

  • Wouldn’tit be rude ifsome one took a date and ifmgnoared but drank and introduced selves to strangers and ignored date… That’s a problem.. I dont like to be in an awkward place.. Its like being dissex or abandoned..

  • The only thing I fear missing out on is this “hookup culture” reactionaries keep fear-mongering about. Every other girl on Tinder has NO HOOKUPS plastered on her bio smdh

  • im having trouble with fomo with my church youth group doing things that i cant be apart of because of my age. im supposed to be in highschool but i was started late. so when the highschool does something that i miss out on i feel so left out anyone have any advice for me

  • This can also be applied to gaming, where those infected with FOMO will buy every new release, play it for a month, and completely abandon it.

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  • This has great intent, but… I fear that if this is oversimplified, people will not recognize when they’re REALLY missing out.

    For instance, I know a trans friend who was denied a basic life and healthcare for 3 decades.

    There is fear of missing out and actually missing out and distinguishing between the two is REALLY important moving into this kind of bright, yet definitely changing, uh, climate?

  • True social media is the worst addiction we all are into. I call it Digital Slavery, we are into this era. We all are enslaved by these technology platforms. Breaking out is in our hand, but we tend to choose otherwise option.

  • Such a weak society we have today… the “fear” of missing out? It’s such a first world problem. Along with finding gluten free, non gmo food and trying to keep up to date with the newest iPhone. I’ve been to people in developing countries. They have no fear of missing out because they deal with what could be considered extreme circumstances. I think we’ve become weakened by our reliance on finding pleasure rather than finding purpose. There’s no such thing as a fear of missing out, just a weak society dependent on social acceptance.

  • I don’t use any of the social medias, so I don’t typically find out about it when ppl get together without me therefore no FOMO for me!…… usually.

  • Talk with your parents or relatives rather than scrolling through feeds. Everyone has FOMO but how you face it makes it a problem.

  • If you have FOMO ask yourself: Will I care about this a week from now? Do I really want to be apart of whatever that thing is? If so, Why? How will this enrich my life? If so, how will it? Is it really that important? If so, why haven’t you thought about it before? FOMO I found comes from having many interests. Which is a good thing. It makes you a more interesting individual. But understand the difference between what interests you and what fascinates you. Chances are you are already doing what fascinates you.

  • Businesses Make use of your Fear of missing out by using the law of scarcity. Women Use the same by using absence after creating engagement.

  • I just discovered you today, and fell in love, thank you, just subscribed to you, i experienced this phenomeon a few weeks ago, and needed re-affirmations on myself. Thanks

  • “So the next time you find yourself wishing you could experience what others have in your social media feed, unplug and focus on yourself by experiencing something that makes /you/ feel joy instead.”…yeah uh the problem with that is the only things that bring me actual joy either require another person/other people (performing, positive affirmation, receiving gifts, sex) or are random encounters I cannot control the occurrence of (ie encountering some neat animal when on a walk, such as an interesting spider, a hawk, or a stray cat), so I’m literally stuck when I experience FOMO. There is nothing that can take away the intensity of the pain of being alone, unliked, a failure, ect. Except death I guess but I’ve learned from my multiple hospitalizations that I am Not Allowed to make the suffering stop, so I don’t even bother with that anymore

  • I use to have FOMO growing up (being a bit of a social outcast didn’t help) and even into adulthood. Then I found happiness in life sucking and now I don’t have FOMO (or depression) anymore. I am now very happy lone and doing my own thing. In fact I like being alone more then being part of a group. Because being alone means I can do what I want when I want and what is better than that? I don’t have to think about or care what other people want or how they feel or about what they are thinking. It is a lot less tiring (being an introvert helps). I am much happier and have more energy and way less stress.

  • This is a serious issue that many of us are, or were guilty off. I went into a deep depression after a heartbreaking divorce. The void in my heart was extremely painful. I felt life was just passing me up as I watched my ex-wife immorally run around town. So I then went on dating sites and went through a plethora of women. Thing is, I still felt this emptiness and void in me. I was getting the attention I felt I needed to bounce back. But I was so mistaken to think that I could find myself through validation by others. I was serial dating but still felt empty. It wasn’t until I decided to focus on me that things began to change. I knew I needed healing. So I began to spend time on myself. I didn’t realize how much peace and joy I would discover by just working on myself! Today, I live a healthy and joyous life. I have hobbies, I’m working on a new degree, learning a third language and preparing to travel the world. Happiness is found within you, not in anyone or anything else. Search for it, it is there.

  • I’ve been in a state of fomo so much lately. Turning 24 has made me really want to enjoy my youth before it is too late but I’m stuck in med school and a lot of my friends have already graduated so I have no one to do anything with. So I sit in my room and scroll through Instagram and observe everyone else enjoying their lives… So here I am watching this video lol

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