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So how can parents handle this? One suggestion is to draw up an agreement with your young-adult child in writing. The details depend on the specifics of the situation, but a good general rule comes from the authors of the Love and Logic books. It’s called the “good neighbor policy.”.

Landing and keeping the job is the child’s responsibility; gathering leads for one is certainly an area in which a father can offer help. Marriage. Young adults typically have many questions as they start thinking about finding the right person to marry. A father’s role goes from being more authoritative when the child is young and more prone to mistakes but as he grows up he needs to loosen the strings and become a friend and guide, more like giving up control and playing one up, for example, as you rightly say.

This can be similar to a blessing or a word of faith which provides our kids with a reference point from a dad who has strong inner convictions. Dig deep. If we’re going to deliver a message of hope to our sons and daughters, we need to be firmly grounded in our convictions, values, faith—whatever drives and motivates us and gives us hope. Conversely, it’s more common for daughters to estrange than sons.

However, when males estrange, it seems to be more final or longer-lasting: the average estrangement from fathers lasts 7.9 years (compared to an average of 5.5 years for mothers), and estrangements from sons average 5.2 years (with 3.8 years for daughters). Like any relationship, a parent-child bond has its highs and lows. When kids are young, you’re their everything.

When they become teenagers, you’re their enemy. When they’re full-fledged adults, well, things get complicated. As grown children enter their 20s and. Adult children—particularly daughters as I learned from the research for Nobody’s Baby Now: Reinventing Your Adult Relationship with Your Mother and Father. by Sheri McGregor.

When an adult child abandons parents, or in some cases the entire family, the what-ifs and how-coulds can limit recovery. What if my child returns to reconcile? How can I move on now yet still hold onto hope? After an adult child’s rejection, the idea of moving on can feel like giving up, so trying to move forward brings guilt. This can have a drastic negative effect on the type of relationship an adult child may have with their parents.

Especially, if there was was one parent that had little to no contact during the child’s upbringing. Adult children of divorce may be dealing with the. Second wives or partners drive a wedge between fathers and children, and fathers allow this to happen.

The study also found first wives drive a wedge between the fathers and adult children. Fathers either consciously or unconsciously choose to do this when they become involved with a.

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Generally, adult children feel closer to their mothers than to their fathers.

“Family Ties and Aging” by Ingrid Arnet Connidis, SAGE.
from Family Ties and Aging
by Ingrid Arnet Connidis, SAGE.
SAGE Publications, 2001

Large numbers of teenage fathers do maintain contact with their children and do play a role in the child’s upbringing.

“The Nature of Adolescence” by John C. Coleman, Leo B. Hendry
from The Nature of Adolescence
by John C. Coleman, Leo B. Hendry
Routledge, 1999

One year post-birth, fathers in couples with at least one adolescent parent (mother or father) were no more susceptible to decreased engagement with children than older couples.

“Encyclopedia of Adolescence” by Roger J.R. Levesque
from Encyclopedia of Adolescence
by Roger J.R. Levesque
Springer New York, 2014

Fathers spend more time with their infant sons than with their daughters, and they also tend to be more aware of their sons’ adolescent concerns than of their daughters’ anxieties.

“Kaplan and Sadock's Study Guide and Self-examination Review in Psychiatry” by Benjamin J. Sadock, Virginia A. Sadock, Ze'ev Levin
from Kaplan and Sadock’s Study Guide and Self-examination Review in Psychiatry
by Benjamin J. Sadock, Virginia A. Sadock, Ze’ev Levin
Wolters Kluwer Health / Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2007

Indeed, the longer fathers stick around, the less likely girls are to be sexually active prior to marriage.

“Truth Overruled: The Future of Marriage and Religious Freedom” by Ryan T. Anderson
from Truth Overruled: The Future of Marriage and Religious Freedom
by Ryan T. Anderson
Regnery Publishing, 2015

Consistent with the trend that fathers are older than mothers are, the partners of teenage mothers are an average of two to four years older.

“Parenthood in America: An Encyclopedia” by Lawrence Balter, Robert B. McCall
from Parenthood in America: An Encyclopedia
by Lawrence Balter, Robert B. McCall
ABC-CLIO, 2000

They may also see that fathers are less often present, and that when they are, they are more unpredictable and exciting but also less responsive to the infant s cues.

“Encyclopedia of Women and Gender, Two-Volume Set: Sex Similarities and Differences and the Impact of Society on Gender” by Judith Worell
from Encyclopedia of Women and Gender, Two-Volume Set: Sex Similarities and Differences and the Impact of Society on Gender
by Judith Worell
Elsevier Science, 2001

Their data show that the average adult is not in social contact with the infant more than a small fraction of the mother’s time at any age and has less time in contact than the father at every age except eight months.

“The Evolution of Childhood: Relationships, Emotion, Mind” by Melvin Konner, Samuel Candler Dobbs Professor in the Department of Anthropology and the Program in Neuroscience and Behavioral Biology Melvin Konner, M.D.
from The Evolution of Childhood: Relationships, Emotion, Mind
by Melvin Konner, Samuel Candler Dobbs Professor in the Department of Anthropology and the Program in Neuroscience and Behavioral Biology Melvin Konner, M.D.
Belknap Press of Harvard University Press, 2010

In early adulthood, offspring typically have more frequent contact with mothers than with fathers and are more likely to turn to mothers for advice and emotional support than to fathers.

“Encyclopedia of Human Relationships: Vol. 1-” by Harry T. Reis, Susan Sprecher
from Encyclopedia of Human Relationships: Vol. 1-
by Harry T. Reis, Susan Sprecher
SAGE Publications, 2009

By contrast, fathers do not appear in any significant relationship to children until the latter are at least two or three years old.

“Entertaining Satan: Witchcraft and the Culture of Early New England” by John Putnam Demos
from Entertaining Satan: Witchcraft and the Culture of Early New England
by John Putnam Demos
Oxford University Press, 2004

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  • They should be encouraged as soon as 3-4 months that is when they develop the ability to self soothe… this is as Jordan is wont to say…. the evidence for this is quite clear…. so. no JP… not 9 months. Read the Pediatric literature again.

  • I have a good father who has fallen to a chaotic wife and alcohol.

    My father would rough house with me, he taught me how to box. He would let me garden with him, I learnt how to cultivate trees, grown my own food, and nurture a garden and bring nature in. We would go cycling and hill climbing together, He taught me how to read and write, he gave me many books, he taught me politics and would debate me, he fostered a strong work ethic and taught me how to be a care take to my 4 sisters. How to say no and mean it, assert myself and how to learn from others and account for my wrong doings.

    My mother really did do her best, she just could not take care of herself and ended up neglecting me and my sisters.

    I’ve sent my father Peterson’s book in a desperate attempt to reach him, he’s suffering and he’s grown tired, and got into unhealthy routines, and my mother enables. My sister turn a blind eye as it’s too much for them to deal with.

  • Fortunately I’m not this helpless. I know how to do all these things by myself, but unfortunately so many kids are this reliant for others with every little problem.

  • How do u deal with men if you have daddy issues and been around women your entire life? Most people in your family are girls and being in an all girls school….

  • in latin society, at least the part i have experienced in my mexican family, studying deeply is within culture, the culture of family as an operational unit with the scale of human ecology from individual through to society and perhaps nation. this suggests somewhat different things to what’s put forward in this video.

  • That presumes the father is capable of interacting with others. The father of my two daughters is incapable of parenting. It was all up to me. He is not in his body, so he could not help his children to experience physical interaction.

  • My mom SCREAMS at me and talks with such a disgusting tone, but when I do that, she ALSO screams at me and tells me I am being disrespectful. Maam, YOU WERE MY INFLUENCER SO IM TALKING EXACTLY LIKE YOU, Its ur fault. All of it

  • I lost my dad when I was 16 so i was expecting to see what it would be like if he was here for me as an adult, but this is thankfully all stuff he taught me while he was here. Love your videos bro thank you

  • Ur kids ask “How” incessantly @ 3, and “how do u _” 18 25. I’m on constant lecture mode now, trying to disguise it as casual suggestions lol.

  • My mum:I’ll buy you a phone if you go to that high school
    Me:-shakes cuz doesn’t want the phone but will try to get in the school-
    My mum: tells grandmaSee even if I offer her a phone, she won’t go to that high school!
    Me: stays silent while holding back my tears
    It really sucks when my parents misunderstand me..

  • Me and my brother are like this with our baby sister �� Except she’s academically smarter than us and a well behaved kid (actually stays in & has been rejecting beer and wine from me since forever).

  • Mom: why dont you feel like you can trust me?? Ofc you can, tell me anything!!
    Me: Well, whenever I try to open up to you I personally feel like you just shut me down, yell at me, or just laugh and make the situation worse, and I end up thinking “why did I do that, I already knew it would’ve made everything worse” ((90 percent of my life my parents will never know))
    Mom: *proves my point and goes on a rant about how I should be more grateful*

    Can anyone relate??

  • Parenthood is a job, like any other job, and many people are not suited to it. Unfortunately, the people most ill-suited seem to be the people who don’t realize that about themselves and have children anyway.

  • Was he 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 or 6..? how about all of the above? The only thing that changed was he stopped drinking. But that kind of changed and amplified the rest.

  • Dude……I have an Indian dad……. nothing like this happens……I learned all this from others!!! My dad only cares abt my studies!!!!

  • Good grief this is soooo true. This is exactly what I go thru with my grown kids. I know I taught them how to do things!!! What happened???? LOL

  • Somehow I think the 88 dislikes are from people who are gay or trans., every person needs a father in their life or they will mostly be disadvantaged in life. People who brush this aside clearly have no clue about the roles that a mother and father play in the development of a child.

  • Jiu Jitsu from the age of 7. Now my son is 13 year old and practising Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, English boxing and Muay Thai in a passionate way… Building strength both mentally and physically. Amazing experience.

  • my dad hates me and he never liked to speak with me. we don t have dad-son relationship. he thinks he is training me with calling me bad person,kid who can not do anything.

  • If your girl thinks that starting a fire or hammering nails is magic… you need to break up, dude. She’s obviously either a child or a time traveling cave-woman. It will never work.

  • I don’t know it’s not because my parents are abusive or anything but we aren’t really used to showing love to each other. I’m confused, maybe it’s me who doesn’t spend more time with them. Can anyone help? Thanks����

  • My mother played both father and mother roles while my dad was constantly working and showed no interest in teaching and playing anything with me and my younger brother

  • My mom keeps saying “stop being sad, you should be happy”. Like what the heck, don’t tell me how to feel, it feels so irritating.

  • Step dad taught me how to kick aside the shyness i had and be courageous, my real dad taught me what not to do simply by doing what’s contrary to what he did.

  • My dad said if you want something you work for it and you pray and you will get it and my dad works hard he has to wake up at 4:00 i love him

  • My parents hate me they used to love me now they get mad at me when I ask for food and I can’t even lay down without them working me like a slave, and my brother has 3 fish I can’t even have a hamster I barely eat my parents give me a few dollars a week and I just buy ramen and hot sauce while they eat red lobster and Olive Garden while I eat ramen it’s like they don’t love me anymore like I’m a homeless man and I just live there

  • Unfortunately I had a friend whose mother always said that her father was totally expendable. After finishing school on time, she graduated twice, but only achieved a professional activity when she was about 40 years old. She was once fired as an intern because the boss asked her to wear makeup at work and she replied “It’s none of your business!” She spent many years in psychotherapy and I think the results delayed, but they are showing up now.

  • On the hospital, the doctor told my dad that he should get a better relationship with me since i hide a lot from him. Im going to start therapy for the first time on tuesday so i really want to have good communication:)

  • I find it interesting, I lost my father to cancer when I was young. N I don’t think I got that rough housing play. With him being in the hospital. N it was awkward later on in life when friends wanted to wrestle n play rough. It was like I didn’t know what to do so I just didn’t play those games. I feel now that I’m older a good father figure is very important especially to boys. I feel I’ve missed out n missed a lot of lessons, (shaving, cars, girls, discipline, not giving up, being strong n brave n confident.) Things I believe a dad helps u out with. I’m a father of 3 now trying to learn what a father is on my own now. So I appreciate the great video that can help me on my way to guiding my kids. They are great kids so I must be doing something right. Lol

  • i have a mentally ill father though i feel like it never really took a toll on me, i’ve been trying to discover what habits i’ve gained because of what happened! wish me luck!

  • my mother doesn’t trust me what so ever. no boys aloud over. no going places at night. no sleepovers i mean seriously she’s just making everything worse for me. i feel as if i have to hide everything from her.☹️it sucks. i just want her to trust me and let me do things.

  • Hugs are a natural stress reliever when u actually believe it gonna do crap to your relationship. After that, the same crap and arguments with the same structure that leads to no real resolution and you have spoken about comes back to slap you in the face bc u actually believed ppl were finally starting to change. Why do they go back to the same nonsense of fighting to preserve authoritarian rule or status I may eyes when even I know that as parent you only rule to be able to best serve and give and love unconditionally and inadvertently at the very least teach your child to do the same. In essence, the chance to fight for something that has crumbles ling ago is put over solving the problem, which is left up and the air, and circles back to slap all of us in the face bc it was never solve and tales more than just me to do so.

  • I have 4 younger brothers to step up for since their fathers are deadbeats (1 out of those 4 shares the same father as me) thank you for making this video, you dont have to be their father to step up to the plate.

  • My 3 year-old daughter was an anxious girl around other children in playgrounds. She’d scream In horror when a child approached her or looked at her. I always followed her around and played with her. I taught her how to make friends with random kids she meets. Now she is the social butterfly of any playground. She really is the sweetest child. Sometimes other kids are mean but it doesn’t deter her. She will either keep trying or find someone else. Never a tear these days. Martial arts is next on the list. I wish I had this when I was younger

  • My mother would mostly scream to my father to much he is getting ready to move out i am 8 years old and my dads moving out and ive been crying this whole day

  • Great message! Thanks for putting this out.

    I have started my own channel thats similar in subject to this, with Dad stories and advice! It also shares more of a personal journey of healing after the loss of my Dad. If you’re interested, please checkout my latest video:

    I hope you will like it and consider subscribing!
    I’ll be posting weekly on topics that cover his wisdom and that which I’ve gained throughout this process and my life.

  • Lol they talk to the viewers as if they’re the parents watching, trying to strengthen their relationship with their children, but in reality we’re the ones seeking a way to mend those relationships. Too bad….

  • One of the lessons that I learned from my father is that you reap what you sow meaning that if you want something you have to get out there and work for it.

  • I just see him as a sperm donor I’ve tried so many times to make a relationship with him but I’m just the brooding fucked up teenager to him the one that doesn’t know what she’s talking about. When he would leave he would guilt trip me for not looking or reaching out to him when I was a kid but I was just a kid but there’s no arguing or compromise with him. The sky is blue but if you tell him and he if he says red it had to be red.

  • How am I supposed to hug the people who call me “fat” and tell me my hobby is “stupid” and “if You keep getting c’s and b’s you’ll end up homeless” it’s frustrating trying to impress them. I’m just scare how there going to act when I come out.

  • Cheers to my own father who played a great role in raising me along with my mum. It is so important to have ths father play the bigger role in raising children esp daughters. Man…all those soccer sessions, sports training, boxing and good times made me just tough. He along with my uncles and grandfather played a positive role in that I love and feel comfortable around men…heres to the men out there who play a great role in supporting us ladies and.cheers to everyone out there. You all have a story to tell and are all fighters.

  • I was put in foster care the last time I remember seeing him was when I was five years old. It’s been eight years since I’ve seen him. My grandma called today and over heard her talking with my adopted mom. She said I have been trying to get him to send her a letter but he won’t. As if he doesn’t want to know his own daughter. Thinking about I don’t know how he looks it has been so long.

  • Although we can get help and get better mentally, science shows that there is permanent physical damage to our bodies in the form of small RNA mutations that are passed on for up to 3 generations. If you’ve had a screwed up childhood like myself, please seek help but also do not have children. You can thank your parents for stealing that joy from you.

  • My parents told me they loved me when i was 3, ive never heard those words from them again. They have made me gain anxiety and blame me for it, all my friends say that they will open to me but they havent. Ive hugged them, made sure they were ok and done chores so they wont be in pain. They’ve just broke me

  • My dad isn’t really described on here. His problem is he doesn’t really know how to show any emotion that isn’t anger or playfulness

  • One day,if i have a child,I try my best despite anything to be their mom,friend,and protector.They have a freedom to speeh when they’re small,not when they’ve grown up.

  • I’m sick of these liberal intellectual elites at universities using their brainwashed alumni to infiltrate mainstream media and Hollywood in order to normalise the existence of single parent families and delegitimize the importance of a family patriarch in raising strong, disciplined, children that value and will uphold the concepts of blood, nationhood, and the free market for generations to come.

    That’s why I’ve been raising my children under the strict guidance of teachings contained within the esteemed university professor Jordan Peterson’s New York Times best seller books, for the last 5 years.

    My eldest is a huge Joe Rogan and Peterson fan, and is already becoming a free-thinker that is hyper-vigilant against the post-modern, Neo Marxist bullshit telling him and his friends to “comform to woke politics and be ashamed of their imagined privilege”. He recently got his purple belt in jiu-jitsu and is finishing school next year with hopes of joining the army, so he can defend the amorphous concept of Western civilization from its enemies that are always being talked about on his podcasts.

  • My dad always made it clear that I was to always treat women with the utmost respect. My friends might call me a simp, but it’s an important lesson.

  • Hi,
    I’m having trouble getting along with my parents. We always have disagreement and arguments. Your video make me smile and better. I’ll will show them this video.

  • I am very glad these video clips are kept short and concise so you can focus on the content easily. It is very refreshing to look at and hear.

  • My lord this is every conversation that my husband has with his 19 and 25 year old sons. But he missed the “go to the drug store and get Miralax. It will take a few days”

  • Drugs and alcohol was always chosen before me, leaving me with other people cause them to sexually assault me!, Told my mom she didn’t do shit!
    Now I hate my mom, don’t let her see my kids at all

  • If I try hug my parents they honestly they tell me I’m weird and stupid for it and after we just have a fight and it just effects me more mentally

  • Sometimes I doubt being an angry and absent father is not my dad’s fault. He’s not superhuman he works hard to raise the family. I’m too vulnerable I guess.

  • Tw: alcoholism, suicide ment.
    My dad used to be an alcoholic, but wont admit it. He quit cold turkey after his doctor told him he would be dead by 50 if he continued. I was 12 when he quit, and throughout my teens he would instead vent his frustrations to me. Tell me how miserable he was, how sometimes he wanted to shoot himself. And now he simply has no idea how I have mental health issues. It’s nuts my dudes. Some parents are wack

  • This guy must live in my house. That conversation at 7:01 is verbatim my house everyday. Teens are hard. I never thought it would be so so hard. Feels like were are trapped in this horrible cycle.

  • Dad is more of a emergncy type of a guy. He’s not your everyday small that chitty chat type of a guy. But when shit hits the fan for whatever reason…dad talk.

  • My Dad: “Your car needs an oil change.”�� My 30yr old ass: “What? How do you know?”�� ( deer in head lights look on my face) My Dad: “Because, I just checked and it’s also printed on the dang sticker that’s right in front of your face when you get in and out of the car.”���� Me: Really? �� My Dad: ����������������……It’s gonna be 3yrs in May since he passed….I miss him like crazy

  • My father was raised by a bpd parent and became a manchild. I raised my father who was emotionally absent while growing up in a house full of conflict. I parented my parents because no one was there to be the second adult when thr first one failed. Im now filled with emotional wounds.

  • My father is nice as long as I am behaving exactly like he wants me to… If I express my true emotions he withdraws and becomes very cold…

  • I have a good relationship with my parents, but, my mum is kind of a shopaholic, and well.. I can go overly anxious over cluster at home, plus I live in Hong Kong, so space can be limited. My Anxiety just randomly pops up when considering to buy anything at all, that includes books, pens.. etc etc. I just think about it at the most randomest of times. I always talk to her about my concerns and my phobia of clusters, but she says purchasing items is the only way to make her happy?? How do I get her to reduce the frequency of her buying items?

  • Everyone is talking about “not continuing the cycle” but living in the fear that we’ll continue a cycle is never the way to live, so take that fear, that anger, and turn that into determination, turn that into a vow that u will NEVER continue that cycle, take the love your father never gave you and hand it off to the next generation. We decide weather we continue the cycle or not, not our fathers.

  • Our daughter was in college 5 hrs away & she drove right over a metal plate in the road that the gas company had set there, to cover the hole they were gonna come back & work on the next day. But of course she hit the EDGE of the metal plate & split her tire 3/4ths of the way around. Us: 5 hour road trip, each way and the cost of a new tire, plus Dad, on the dorm parking lot, changing a tire in the rain.! But it’s ok Honey! Deep Sigh

  • I’ve been horrible to my mum to the point she probably won’t accept any kind of apology and gift or be able to even hug me. IDK aid I’m gonna be able to fix my relationship so how can I change?

  • This is so accurate hahahah putting phone on speaker so mom can hear too—every single time. Every time. Which is then followed by “what????” roughly 50x and the call ends in me asking, “Are either of you listening? Dad walked away, didn’t he?”

  • my mom outright said that there’s probably no fixing our relationship and she said “it is what it is.” i’m 13. i love her and i want a good relationship but she doesn’t feel the need to change anything

  • I grew up literally hating my father:/ physical abuse, emotional abuse, he is mentally ill (Major Depression&PTSD) ; was absent most of the time, never spent any time with me and I never realized how much it actually affected me until I grew up lol
    I clearly remember when other kids would talk about what they did with their dads, go out, fix a car, do whatever ; i’d try and make myself feel included by lying, creating fake stories of what i did with my dad lol
    Even today, i’m 24 years old and I still dread being in the same room with him, driving in the same car or just talking with him, there is literally no connection between us, I guess I had a father but not a father figure if that makes sense

  • What if I didn’t have a proper father figure in my childhood? (Don’t attack anyone in my family please, I grew up with both parents.) How can I learn those lessons and get to the effects of the wrestling at the age of 16? Bc I’m working rn on getting civilised and stuff, but I’m really bad at it. Does someone have advice?

  • While I’m not a father yet, I do have newborn niece that I very much care for and would love to be apart of her life growing up into womanhood and helping my sister nurture her. I’d wager this can just as easily be applied to any adult man who wants to help foster the next generation in his family

  • I have made a mistake,
    I have broken my dads feelings he dose everything for me we are not rich but he gets me everything in the world and I have been an spoilt brat. I have broken his heart and I fell like ending it. I am not sure what to do.

  • My mom used to abuse me and now she doesn’t talk to me anymore. She just watches 90 day fiancé. She doesn’t even talk to me or say “I love you”

  • This is a generalised view on father and child relationships. There is also a spectrum of kids who will not comply with this simplistic way of parenting.
    The reality is somewhat different to me and if you happen to have a compliant child more power to you but you shouldn’t need advice…it should be more organic. No matter what we know about psychology we will still produce the same number of low empathy-low agreeablness children and what I feel is important is not to aid them in masking these attributes. Do your best is all I would say; parents are human too. If you get them to adulthood without an exaggerated threat of a smack on the hind leg you have done well but not if they walk all over everybody in their lives.
    ��my kids are the most awesome thing that’s ever happened to me but are they perfect? It would be bias of me to answer yes and I certainly ain’t either.
    Are your kids perfect JP?
    What is this ideal kid we are trying to produce? How will they behave? As you train them to?
    There will be order and there will be chaos!!

  • I was diagnosed with ADHD, but I’m pretty sure it’s actually autism. When I was misbehaving about “stupid” things, I’d get spankings and they’d yell at me, which is really confusing and hurtful when I didn’t even realize I was being bad. I started becoming “independent” at a very early age because of it. My biological dad left before I was born because he didn’t want me, so that also didn’t help with my trust issues. And my parents and teachers were horrible to me because I had a very hard time learning, and they thought I was just being stubborn/lying. I became exactly what they called me. I didn’t even start learning to read until I was 8 because I shut down and refused to learn, (I taught myself because I didn’t trust anyone) which at that point I was homeschooled. I had mental breakdowns every time I did homework because I associated it with punishment, which I had been traumatized by at that point.

    Edit: Also, my mom will never admit it, but I think she resents me a bit because she had me at a young age. My mom and step-dad are good people, just not good parents for me.

  • I’ve had my sticker fall off�� this is 100% my dad. Except…he drinks pabst.
    My dad literally just asked me if I checked my account while on the phone earlier.

  • My dad doesnt even talk to me. He talks to my sister well. I think its because she graduated from college she is a teacher. she has her own home and I don’t:( I feel like a failure. I should just blow my brain out..

  • Same way children are left with “mom” even if she’s a piece of shit, but you know respect all moms yeah right. You have to learn to be both a mother and father and work as a team to build your family no matter what.

  • Divorce makes it hard (for a dad)to contribute daily to your children. Keep your marriage together at least until they are grown, then divorce.

  • I love my parents and they love me but sometimes there too overprotective when I said I’m stressed they compare me to other people to stop me from talking and sometimes there unapologetic it hurts me I just hope they can understand me

  • As a father, sometimes I feel my use-fullness in life is over because my daughters are 18 and 19. I was meant to be a dad to small children, now I have none. It’s really a hard point in life when your kids leave.

  • My father thought me to finish what I started.
    My father also thought me that I should never ever walk away from my children in the future because now he is the one who plays both rules he is like a mom and a dad to me and my siblings.

  • Absolutely nailed it. I remember discussing these tenets of the family structure in Anthropology, which I’m sure is a field being highly targeted the Lefty revisionist un-naturalists.

  • DARLIN Please be all you not mokeyfunk. Exercise 25 minutes of walking every day. And lift weights every other day. Drink water only to lose weight. So good to see you honey.

  • Guaranteed there’s a transgender identifying as a male who has an adopted gender-less child with a sis-gender lesbian partner…..thinking they’ve got this covered.

  • Never had a dad….. explains why as a young male i have a few problems with relationships or generally tricks like fixing things..etc. Now I’m a dad myself, 20 years old trying to be the best dad I can be and not let my kid ever miss out on having both parents

  • 100% agree. I can’t wait to see the bond my daughter and her father will have. I’m so happy she will have that role in her life and that I can just be her mother and play my role.

  • At 9 months old they should start to know their place in the world? What utter rubbish! He’s had one daughter? A nine month old baby cannot talk or walk and is solely dependant. If your baby is fed, has a clean bottom and is crying, you look to see if they have a temperature etc. If not, vthey are usually tired. You leave them alone, do not pick them up, but keep an eye on them. Almost always, they will fall asleep. Mothers get to know their own babys’ cry and each time they cry there’s a difference in the cry related to what they are crying for. They are a baby at that age! Having both parents is a good and proper thing, but that depends on the type of parent they are! Good mother, bad father and good father, bad mother? I’m talking really nasty parent here, then best off as a single parent. Believe me, the child does not NEED A NASTY PARENT in their lives. It causes much, much more harm to the child in the long run.

  • Is it bad that I started wrestling with my twin boys when they were around 10 months. They’re 2 soon and are super confident and boisterous.

  • Teach them to speak, read, write and count. In doing this it takes closeness and patience and care, everything else falls into place therein.

  • My father was never there and legally get rid of any obligation to take care of me when I was young (yes, it’s a thing in Poland). But I think I did come out on the other side and I cannot wait to have a child and make sure that I will give it the best start possible and do my best to bring up a great human.

  • My Dad once when he was drunk jumped up and down on me until my arm snapped. Like hand hanging off. I was 12. After i was disowned by both my parents because when i wake up every day i think about my arm breaking. They disowned me because my Dad’s feelings were hurt when he had to remember abusing me. He died last year. Cant wait for my mum to die. Will be a great day.

  • Im 14 and my dad has never taught me anything and so now im stuck here learning how to work on my mototcycle and learn how to fish and hunt by myself and its been really hard getting up and pretending lime i know what im doing so now im here

  • This made me feel so much purpose as the father of a boy. I never had a father growing up so to hear that the things I’ve already been instinctively doing are good for my son is very empowering.

  • I want to know as a father of a 2 yr old boy, how do I handle a situation when he for example falls. Should I let him recover on his own or should I rush to sooth him.

  • When parents says more bad things than can I love them back? ��
    My mom called me bitch just because I had a boyfriend and accused that I was in relation we th a 40 yr old man..(just because my neighbor said so)
    I was just 13 and didn’t had any connection with that parents never believed me ������
    What should I do!?

  • If your parents were bullshit and you are a decent human, YOU ARE A SUCCESS BY A LONG LONG STRETCH… Hear me out here, you beat the odds and statistics, You are a winner for real….

  • Alright y’all. This is the Crux of Freedom. The 7 Liberal Arts. The Trivium: 1) Grammar 2) Logic 3) Rhetoric.
    The Quadrivium: 4) Arithmatic 5) Geometry 6) Astronomy 7) Music

  • Yet again, Jordan delivers fabulous information for the betterment of mankind. I can relate to this one in both dimensions. He is 100% correct. Again.

  • If the people trying to raise the kids are still in essence kids themselves, then your message is not going to sink in… They wont even be listing to this.

  • I take my 4 yo to the gym twice a week, he does judo and Muay Thai, it’s a pleasure spending time with him. As a divorced dad I’m very lucky to be able to see him nearly every day and spend so much time with him and teach him diy, robotics, STEMs and many things. We have a very special bond.

  • I was crying knowing that my dad hates me. My mom asked my dad if he loves me while he was drunk and he never lies when hes drunk he said “who will love a ugly ass disappointment” my heart broke i dont wanna live anymore i wanna go back to the days where my dad loved me, where i had fun with him now its just hatred that he has for me i honestly don’t wanna live anymore. I know im not the best daughter he wanted, but i love him it just breaks me seeing him say he hates me.

  • Jordan Peterson was on anti depressants for years. I wonder if his viewpoints require them. Most of todays standards of human behavior are over rated and create too high levels of stress.

  • I can’t really blame my father for my attachment disorder. He was a good provider; didn’t drink, smoke, womanize, gamble, etc.; and came home from work everyday and never hit me. His father died when he was only 4, had trouble academically in school, and didn’t have a male role model until he was 10, although that term applied to his step-dad is very loose. For my part, I was stricken with a high IQ, and the “gift” of a 145+ was diagnosed in 2nd grade. Thinking back I can remember a few incidences that lead me to believe he was somewhat jealous of my childhood and my academic success, but more importantly I believe I was a very aware child, “sensitive” if you prefer that word, and I had at an early age an increased need for his guidance and reassurance which he didn’t seem to have the intuitive resources to provide.
    My mother taught me how to catch and play baseball.

    While there may be numerous people who would have idolized my situation, it did nonetheless leave me deeply uncertain of how to approach a woman in a positive way. In my time in the military, all my relationships were superficial and centered around partying. My first wife was only the 2nd woman I’d ever met that wanted something more than clubbing so we were married inside of six months. The marriage was great for 6 months, good for 3 years, hard for 2 more, and disastrous for the next ten. I married my 2nd wife too quickly as well and only got 3 years out of that. I find that I am so afraid of losing anyone that I can only ever have either cheap affairs or go all-in immediately and wind up destroying myself to keep their affection.

    My point is it’s not necessarily the parent’s part alone that contributes to this problem, but the unrequited needs of the child that may not be fully considered and understood by caregivers as being as advanced as it is. Regardless, the outcome seems the same. I just think that sometimes too much emphasis is placed on the circumstances regarding childhood and the actual fundamental character of the child is overlooked. BTW, I dare not say that heightened emotional requirements are characteristic of only high IQ children, although this may be more often than not. I think more important is the overarching pattern created by the individual’s character in relying on habitual practices that feel second-nature yet may be more or less effective on a case by case basis, i.e. using old tricks for new dogs might be less accurate than a broken clock (only twice a day kind of thing.) This might also help explain why so often the problem seems more deep-seated than the neglect created by only one parent so many years (although admittedly formative) ago.

    I stress this only because of my reticence to engage in perceived victim behavior. Too often sufferers are labeled as being self-indulgent, and then the whole idea is tossed aside by family and significant others while the actual trauma remains; or worse, gets dismissed by the sufferer himself.

    I’d like to think some day I might find a great gal, and that I might be emotionally ready to handle that, but I’m sure I’m more than a few steps away from finishing this journey. In the meantime, I’ll just keep breathing. And tomorrow I’ll get up, and I’ll breathe some more. And I’ll keep hoping. The sun may shine, or the rain may fall, but I’ll keep hoping, and working. Peace.

  • I’ve always wondered why I had so many crushes, like one after the other

    I got hurt a lot of course, but I couldn’t help getting crushes on people.
    Thankfully now I have a boyfriend and it’s reallu sad to say that we’re closer than me and my father ever will be:(

    I do love my dad and all, but I wish I could tell him that without it being awkward

  • mOm PlAy ThE mOsT iMpOrTaNt RoLe In A cHiLd’s LiFe
    my mother left me when i was 3 and she used to beat up my older brother everyday like shes cyberbullying him or something HhEeH

  • My father abandoned my mom and I (he left because he couldn’t handle my mom, she was totally out of control).

    Not sure if he would have been a good father to me growing up because I’ve reconnected with him and he is almost worthless, I can see.

    That said, I know I’m a mess and being fatherless may have something to do with it.

  • I have a very hard time with my parents… My mom tells me “stop being a brat”, “you’re so disrespectful”, ” you don’t do anything”, “stop staying in ur room”, “why won’t you talk to me!?”, “i won’t buy or get you anything anymore!”, “stop embarrassing me”, “why can’t you be like your little sister?”, “you don’t deserve anything”, “your 13 you should get up and do everything by urself”. I don’t know why she thinks I’ll give her hugs… All she does is put me down and hurt me… When I say she does those things she doesn’t care… She says I need to get help all the time, I can’t give her my love like she wants… I don’t even know how to tell her that I love her because I get to afraid like I’ll trust her to not hurt my feelings or out me down and she does… I need help, any tips anyone?

  • I clicked this video to try to help myself and get more information about my situation. And the more I watched, the only thought about my father that kept coming to my mind was: I’m glad he´s dead. Sorry but I had to be honest.

  • My wife and I made it a point to continually require our kids to make decisions, from a very early age. Even “wrong” ones (that were recoverable from). Decision making requires practice, and direct experience of the consequences of decisions. Set your kids up to experience a lot of both (within developmentally appropriate bounds, of course). You’ll be glad you did. And, of course, there will always be situations where the adult makes the decision! Full stop.

  • That’s because today’s so called young adults NEVER grow up.  They never are weaned from their parents.  Grow the F UP mindless zombies.

  • My mom always has to be the victim, and therefore constantly sees me as the bad guy in many situations. I can’t tell her how I feel when I’m upset with her because, again, she will victimize herself and automatically want my pity. When I don’t give it to her, once again, I am the bad guy. I just can’t wait for the day when I can meet someone who will be willing to hear me out and not constantly put me in situations that make me uncomfortable and trigger my anxiety. Someone who won’t shame me for having normal emotions and reactions.

  • Fathers are very necessary but the biological ability to father a child does not make a father. Therefore, mothers need to be both mother and father, a human impossibility.

  • I just turned 13 and I feel like crying all the time. I have excruciating headaches and I feel like my heart will explode. I try to talk to my mum but she doesn’t listen and I want us to love each other as much as possible. Please help

  • I can’t understand mine. when i put a DVD and ask shall we watch a movie he always slip away the situation making an excuse. refuse to go anywhere with us. i”m now 29 but this make me sad as hell

  • That just explains my husbands behavior. I thought I was so incompetent as a mother that my husband needs to point out the smallest dangers. He would be so much more careful than me. Not saying I’m not careful, but he is on another level. We had so many arguments. It never occurred to me that these are just his fatherly instincts of protection. Jordan might have just fixed our relationship.

  • Seriously, I think we should play Second Chance by Shinedown and have a wrestling match. I’ve practiced w my kid. I’m sick, but I still think I could win.

  • I think the most enjoyable part of being with your son, is when you just hang out together and maybe have a conversation while you play cricket in the back yard.

  • Lucky for me I found mentorship on YouTube in my 20s. Growing up with a single mother had me all kinds of messed up. She tried but nothing can replace male role models. Too bad most people seem to disagree these days.

  • I don’t know why everything feels different my parents at least my mom used to love me now she gets easily angry at me she shouts at me she doesnt even hug me anymore i feel so hated and i spend most of my days crying its making me tired

  • Then my father has been terrible. I don’t remember he ever played with me. I do remember his wrath when I broke things. It’s partly his fault partly the communist party’s fault used him while significantly underpaid him (what else do you expect from government hospitals), compared with doctors in capitalist societies. But he did have a choice to go to the US. He CHOSE not to.

    Basically what my parents have shown me is what NOT to do to my future kids.

  • How about when my dad calls me at 930 in the morning like “are you busy?”… yes dad. I’m literally at work. At my desk. Working.

  • My dad comes for visitation, and we act like freinds, not daughter (or son sometimes) and father. And my step dad and me are completely different, I love my mom, but Mostly keep to myself, my grandma is a narsasistic abuser, and I only REALLY interact on a daily basis with my brother, and mostly talk with him and our best freind(a litteral frickin saint born from demons) is this ok?

  • I just want my parents to take me seriously and consider that maybe I make a valid point and deserve to be listened to instead of being interrupted and yelled at…. then she tells her friends she never yells at us

  • The cooking thing is wrong.
    I never met my Father and I’m a better cook than my Mom and any woman I’ve ever met. Most of the Top Chef’s of the World are Male.
    Stop this stereotype that women are better cooks.
    Traditionally women use to be expected to cook the meals as a Housewife…it just means that they cook MORE not that they are BETTER cooks than men.

  • When my father was gone on a business trip I was glad he was gone but I felt guilty for feeling that way. I didn’t love him and felt guilty about that. I now realize those feelings were because of how he was critical, almost never giving approval or affirmation, and prone to unpredictable rages where random family members would get randomly blamed. He loved to blame but was never wrong himself.

  • There’s no guide book telling you how to be a good father. I’m figuring it out as I go along. I’m more relaxed with my kids when I’m not being judged. I’m far from the ideal father figure and have much to improve on. It’s the most challenging thing I’ve had to step up to. My love for them will go beyond my time.

  • My Dad, he taught me..
    “Learn something, earn something, make your worth something, don’t expect respect automatically trying to hurt someone,
    gather skills, knowledge kills but don’t give your polished steel
    it’s your right to stand and fight don’t trade your soul for dollar bills,
    seek the loyal of the good,
    pledge of allegiance to your hood, conduct yourself in proper manner at all times understood,
    concur losses, share your profits, don’t engage in here say gossip,
    never cross up, travel cautious don’t forget the police watches!

  • Fathers, mothers and parents need to change their perspective and views first on this kinds of matters, if their children are feminine or masculine.

  • Thank you so much for this video �� It was so helpful to me growing up without my dad being around very much. It is sad to read some of the comments about bad parenting that other dad’s have received. Sometimes we can’t help the cards we are given in life. We are here because we want to do better. We can, and we will do better for our kids. Don’t blame our past, let’s improve our, and our kids future guys ��������

  • Peterson misses one key element of the importance of the male in parenting. That is the transference of the knowledge and understanding of the outside world.

  • I don’t know if you see comments on old videos but I’m commenting anyway. I have major absent father issues. However, I have managed to find a partner, get married and have a family. I made sure to find someone who was absolutely nothing like my father. My father is Puerto Rican so I completely avoided Latin men. I also have sexual trauma from a different Latin man but that’s a whole different story. I’ve been with my husband for 25 years and honestly I have no idea how I’ve managed it. I’ve reached a point where I have zero expectations for my father so he can no longer hurt me but he still manages to pick at the scab of childhood hurts.

  • I agree a kid is much better off with 2 descent parents then a single mother. Your irresponsible if you think otherwise especially these thrid wave feminist types.

  • I am so grateful for this video, and for you Kati. You are amazing and so supportive. ��. From a really young age I was scared of my dad, I didn’t want to be around him and I dreaded being forced to have dinner with him every night because I was worried about what he would do during these times. I have blocked most of the memories out, but I remember so clearly him putting me down the most. His favourite insult was ‘you’re a nasty piece of work’, or he would threaten to ‘come down on me like a tonne of bricks’, these insults got worse as I got older. I was a bitch, a dork, a loser. On the otherhand he was also extremely neglectful, he was never around. He eventually went to the extremes of building a separate part of our house where he would seduce women in while me and my mum were at home. It felt good to write this down. Hugs to anyone suffering.xx

  • Nothing should get in the way of good parenting.

    It is all about mutual respect, positive open communication and unconditional love.

    Thank you Jordan Peterson for having the courage and sense of duty to be educate the world so generously on YT ��✌️☝️

  • My dad always told me to never give up if you can’t get something right take some time away and when I went back to it I done it he showed me to be patient never rush anything and to use my head

  • The most Important lesson I learned from my father was how to truly love my son. He did It the hard way by abounding me and showing me how not to do with my son. Thanks dad!

  • This conforms to Islamic belief; a child is deemed an orphan when the father passed away rather than the mother and it really makes sense and does add up.

  • Hi Kati. I’m watching this video during an emotional episode that occurs around once every few months. My father left us when I was 2 and has been absent my entire life. He even started another family. He failed to provide anything for my older sister and I but seemingly gave my 1/2 sister everything and more. I am now 18 and we do not have relationship. It wasn’t until I got older that I realized his problem with drug abuse. He nearly died a year ago due to his addiction but ended up going back to using. His absence in my life is really starting to affect my mental health and the way I carry on relationships. My boyfriend of over a year and I are working through problems stemmed by my daddy issues. Therapy seems like the only thing that will help me move on and I want to know your thoughts on the situation. Thank you so much for the video, it really opened my eyes and gave me strength to want to move forward.

  • Thank you, Neil D. Brown. You are such an intelligent, level headed voice. While your message isn’t new or unique, we can all benefit from your presentation. I am also a fan of your podcast. Please keep up the good work!

  • My father is cool enough,he supports most of the things I do……but I can’t understand why he secretly enjoys hurting me??������

  • So as a single mother (not by choice) where the father is not in the picture at all, what advice do you have to share so my daughter grows up with as less daddy issues as possible?
    Am I the one to be playing rough & tumble with her as well as reinforcing her backbone (double fold, from me & on his behalf) so she is ready for the harshness of the world? How do I make sure she grows up psychologically as well rounded as possible? A lecture/information/advice on this type of thing would be advantageous to all women only families out there. I’ve graduated in childhood & youth studies (with a psychological arm) but nothing like this was ever presented or covered.

  • What can Dr Peterson say of the traditional Asian ‘Detached But Responsible Father’ and ‘Tiger Mother’? What impact does cultural difference have on his recommendations of what a Father should be. A lot of what he says, enriching as it is, is entrench in Western norms and perspectives.

  • My mother doesnt care about my emotions especally if we had a fight over something. I turn 22 in may and I will move out then or earlier, if I can save enough money earlyer

  • ‘Adult Children of Emotional Immature Parents’ is also worth reading. The book you mentioned is for women. Men need resources too. Maybe this is a womens only channel?

  • I think another useful category would be the workaholic father. The one who works so much to give the children everything except he doesn’t give emotional validation, and just critiques you and parents using shame.

  • My dad personally played favorites. When I was younger, I was the “good” child cause I wouldn’t be independent with thinking. Now my brother is the “good” child cause my dad is lgbt-phobic. He met his new wife like 10 years ago and she manipulated him to not be supportive of lgbt and years ago they would say I’m going to hell and ask inappropriate questions to a 12 year old. Now I’m 17 and I rarely talk to him and he acts like he doesn’t know why I don’t want to be with him. I personally can’t wait till I’m 18 so I can cut him out of my life ��

  • It is not that bad if fathers dance with kids, boys and girls, either, and teach dancing to those kids, too. Even if father just manage a bear-like moving of their feets to the beat. One could take the challenge like man and learn some more.
    A very important aspect of fatherhood is supporting, encouraging, and admiring the good mother of his children, the adult woman not commandeering, not expecting her to be his house-keeper, servant, and mother-surrogate just because she got his kids. A mother needs an adult good man at her side.
    In a kind and responsible, and fun, masculine way he models partnership in relations that both boys and girls need to see as a preparation for adulthood and perhaps marriage.

  • আপনার ভিডিও গুলো দেখলামভালো লেগেছ। তো বন্ধু আমার ����ইউটিউব,চ্যালেনটি ঘুড়ে আশার আপনার ভিডিও গুলো দেখলামভালো লেগেছ। তো বন্ধু আমার ����ইউটিউব,চ্যালেনটি ঘুড়ে আশার দাওযাত রইল,এবং,সাবসক্রাইবকরে বেল বাজিযে,�� এসো বন্ধু হয়ে যাই আমাকেসাবসক্রাইব করে বলবেন রিপ্লাই দেন?। কিছু বন্দু আছে সাবসক্রাইব করে, পড়ে ওঠে নেয়।আমি,তাদেরকে বলবো ঐ রকম মন মানসিকতা থাকলে সাবসক্রাইব করবেন না��

  • Anyone get me???

    My story:

    So I went on a trip with two friends right since quarantine recently finished

    And when I got back from the trip at dinner they asked what your favorite part was and I said “It was nice to be away from family for a little while”
    And I guess they took that as an insult I don’t know but they said “Really -_our of everything you did there you didn’t even miss us and…

    I can’t remember much:/ but it was kinda annoying and I was said no no I was just-
    And anyone else have this problem I can never say a hole sentence until one of my parents interrupt me and then they never understand sighs

  • My dad makes me feel very uncomfortable. I’m his only daughter and I’ve turned into something more than his favourite. My dad doesn’t spend any time with my brother. He often manipulates me and has emotionally abused me. I just can’t get away from him. He’s turned me into his wife. It’s what it feels like. He drags me around to do chores and run errands. Forces me to spend time with him. I have to go into my room or the bathroom and say I’m getting changed so that he leaves me alone. He says really perverted things about women around me and sexualises lesbians out loud around me. I’m a lesbian. I think that he may be the whole reason I am a lesbian. I don’t know how to get rid of him.

  • idk what to do. I’m not very warm hearted myself but I’m not mean either.. I just dont like hugs from some people.. and I know people wont understand if I open up..but here I am..

  • Yep that’s how my hubby acts towards our son. Emotionally unavailable. This is a true fact. Even though hubby lays around at home he doesn’t spend enough quality time with our son.Kids learn and build confidence when they spend quality time with there dad’s especially boys.

  • My dad was a professional boxer in one of his past lives. He boxed with me and my brother all the time since we were five. Naturally my brother and I won most of the time! We had a bell, funny big shorts, real gloves and even a ring out of garden hose (when outside). Taught me how to fight without getting angry or hurt, and have loads of fun with my dear dad.

  • My mom always said we were lucky not to have a dad. When he WAS around, it was to sleep off a meth binge. I spied on him once when I was 6 or 7 and saw him sucking on a crack pipe in the bathroom.

  • As a father, my wife and I really value Mr. Peterson’s knowledge. She’s having a hard time accepting the rough play aspect of raising a boy though. I would posit additionally, that the role of the father is also pivotal in the sense of being a counter balance point to the mother in the upbringing of a child. It’s been my observation, that products of single parent families, usually with only the mother raising a child or children, it has a drastic effect on the perspective of the children, frequently to their detriment. I have to say that I’ve seen cases of children without fathers doing well, but that’s the exception rather than the rule.

  • Thank you ❤ when both are unavailable, either too strict or absent, and to be seen you have to do something memorable, either in a good or bad, could this become BPD?

  • I feel like my dad dose not see me in his life sometimes. Instead of him talking and hanging around with me and my sister he hangs and spends his time with r step mom and I’m only ten
    He always upsets me

  • This is why over 90% of adult males in prison, are from Welfare homes where adult males only brag about hiw many ‘babies on the street’ they have spread their seed.

  • I wish I had my father’s knowledge and confidence when speaking with others. I learned no matter what subject he may be talking about with another person, he can just talk for hours. My dad is one of the smartest people I know but he isn’t the type to make others feel like trash. He’s funny and he can roast the living shit out me. I can burn my friends and impress them with my humor but the second my dad is around them they are laughing uncontrollably.

  • Amazing the notes that you have taken. All that you have said is good. Encompassing the totality of of the human being seems to be within what is note. What about man? Not a man not mankind. But simply the man.

  • Good cos I sling my 4 year old around the front room till she is laughing her head off daily. She literally requests ‘spin’ now. Mrs just watches in dismay loooooool love it

  • I’ve wrestled my niece and nephew befor my daughter my rule has always been if you cry were done wrestling there all tough and once they see me they wanna wrestle

  • Should be sexual relationships PLURAL, but one spouse for life. Odd that he’d encourage plurality in that area considering that is where the compelled speech laws come from, the broken home epidemic, lack of monogamy for life attitudes, divorce is proof of lying, promiscuity…all causes of the majority of human suffering & excessive taxes in free countries, the main cause of the current push for Socialism in the West…people who live by mainly emotion not mainly by logic.

  • My dad don’t have time for me and I’m 30 now and I still want a relationship with him but I guess he don’t I’ve tried so many times to reach out but he don’t and it leaves me feeling hurt emotionally hurt inside and my stepdad left to he was there for me but now I’m hurting more over both my dads I’m not doing okay coping I watch porn addiction and drink sometimes and my mental health is bad a mess!

  • The day my Dad met my stepmother he completely shut us out. My mother had custody and our 3rd step father molested my sister and I. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, bipolar type 1, generalized anxiety disorder and severe agoraphobia. My dad refuses to acknowledge what happened to us or that the trauma is still hurting our lives. He thinks we created these diagnoses in our head even though I’ve been hospitalized for mental and physical health issues multiple times a year for the past 10 years. If I even try to talk about it, it gets turned into a joke. But my dad wants to have a relationship with me now while still refusing to validate us and he just doesn’t get it. It’s like he refuses to listen to anything. It makes me really sad because all I’ve heard my whole life from every person I’ve ever met is how great of a man my dad is. Just wish I knew that guy. My dad can look in the eye of the man that hurt us and shake his hand like nothing ever happened… this has actually happened.

  • I’ve always begging for my dad’s attention and love. He absent during my childhood and crushing my teenager.

    Somehow it still felt very bitter when he act like he didn’t know anything about me. He don’t know how I’ll react, he don’t know the bitter things I’ve been trough. He don’t know my skills, my favorite lesson. Even the biggest thing like now I can write it in english.

    For a few years lately. I change my mind. It’s not that he’s not love me. He loves me, but he don’t know how to express it. He came from aI consider bad family background.

    But after a couple therapy sessions, I found so many trauma related to him. He’s not just absent, he’s abusive. And I think my brain decided to bury this memories.

    After all. He’s my dad. Just a human with so many flaws. I’m still begging for his attention, sometimes.

  • i have a good relationsship with my mother, but my dad and stepmom are the most toxic people i’ve ever met. scream at everything i do, and they think that i’m just going to respect them, when they don’t respect me at all. my self esteem is basically non-existing when i’m at their house

  • I love my parents but they are not really respectful of me, my mom will get mad at me for rolling my eyes or sassing her but then she turns around and does the same exact thing. Not only that but when i try to approach her about these things or just things in general that i think would help our relationship she gets upset, my brother has been saying how he wants to move out as soon as possible and i tried telling my mom that maybe theres a reason hes saying that and that maybe theres some things she needs to do differently but she just rolls her eyes and gets upset, i seriously dont know what to do, its to the point where im just asking her to listen to what i have to say and shes just getting upset at me, there was another time she was driving me to an event w my friend and i was meeting my friend there, my friend texted me and said she was going to be late so i asked my mom if we can wait in the car for her, ( i have social anxiety and i didnt know anyone at the event so it was very scaring thinking about walking into the event alone) she said no and that she had to get home, i started panicking and say no i cant do this please stay w me and she just demanded i get out of the car, i was left sitting alone for 20 mins before my friend got there. Long story short if anyone has suggestions that could help please let me know

  • My dad’s not abusive. He just wasn’t there when I was a kid because of the divorce with my Mom. My relationship with him today is great. It’s just a little weird how much he’s helped me in recent years versus then. My coping mechanism was to keep my distance and demonize his new wife, the second part being learned from my Mom and siblings especially. Now I catch myself demonizing my Mom. It’s like the relationships have totally flipped. And it’s weird.

  • I’m 24, my dad usually goes like “you should get life insurance soon so your family will be safe if you die” or “when you gonna buy a house stop renting” or “is your mom mad because I called to say happy birthday even though we’re divorced”

  • Guy here. Emotionally unavailable fathers hurt sons just as much. We share the same pain, that feeling of not having a potential mentor to guide us through life and teach us how to be men. Most of my life, my father felt more like a rival or a boss than someone who’s my own blood. Maybe it’s my own insecurity too.