5 Ideas to Raise a completely independent Teen to become Responsible Adult


How To Motivate Your Teenager

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How to Help a Teen Become More Responsible

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How to Adult | What They Don’t Teach You

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How To Raise An Independent Child

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10 Ways On How To Become a Responsible Adolescent


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How to raise successful kids without over-parenting | Julie Lythcott-Haims

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Listen to your teen when he or she talks, and respect your teen’s feelings. Don’t assume that your teen knows how much you love him or her. If your teen doesn’t seem interested in bonding, keep trying.

Regularly eating meals together might be a good way to connect. Better yet, invite your teen to prepare the meal with you. Talk to your teen with respect, like the adult he is trying so hard to become.

When you talk to him like he’s a child, you stop the growing-up process. So discuss things with him in a tone that conveys you’re interested in his opinion. He’ll reach forward to fill the shoes. Raise a responsible child who’s happy to help out, not reluctant to pitch in. With some patience and a few parenting tricks up your sleeve, you’ll be well on your way to raising a responsible child who becomes a responsible adult.

The following are eight (8) simple rules which could help you, teenagers, to become a responsible adolescent prepared for adult life: 1. Focus on your studies and do well in all of your endeavors. There is time for everything. 2. Take care of your health and hygiene. This won’t be easy. Chores are not fun, at least not for teens.

But as they grow up, chores will be a part of their lives. So, start the training today. And let there be consequences. If your teen fails to do the chores assigned to her, take away a privilege. Take away her mobile for a day.

That will teach them how to be a responsible teenagers. How Teens Become Responsible Adults. Rediscovering the Adult in Every Teen, Dr. Epstein contends that teens are very capable and aren’t given enough responsibility or credit in their daily lives. Raise the kind of person you’d like.

One of your most important goals as a parent is to raise children who become independent and self-reliant people. Certainly, in early development, your children count on you. Certainly, in early.

Raising Children To Become Independent Young Adults. by Dr. Ari Novick there was one teen that had a very different story to tell. parents can provide support and guidance to become an independent and responsible adult by giving their kids the opportunity to make age-appropriate choices and by allowing them to experience the. 15 Tips to Raise a Responsible Child. We all want to raise responsible children.

And we all want to live in a world where others have been raised to be responsible, a world where adults don’t shrug off their responsibilities as citizens. they become both easier to live with and better citizens of the world. 2. Kids need an opportunity to. If you want to have more maturity and responsibility, learn how to control yourself. Manage your thoughts, emotions, and temper. Be careful to evaluate and analyze your actions and behavior.

It may be a great challenge but if.

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Give your adolescents guidance, support, and rules to help them figure out how to be responsible for their lives; allow an appropriate amount of reliance on others, and at the same time, slowly give them greater amounts of freedom and independence.

“DBT® Skills Manual for Adolescents” by Jill H. Rathus, Alec L. Miller, Marsha M. Linehan
from DBT® Skills Manual for Adolescents
by Jill H. Rathus, Alec L. Miller, Marsha M. Linehan
Guilford Publications, 2014

To decrease this resistance, start with chores that are relevant to the teen’s life and that she will need to do as an adult (washing clothes, shopping for and cooking a meal for friends or family, taking care of pets, car repairs, cleaning the bathroom, etc.).

“Smart But Scattered Teens: The Executive Skills Program for Helping Teens Reach Their Potential” by Richard Guare, Peg Dawson, Colin Guare
from Smart But Scattered Teens: The Executive Skills Program for Helping Teens Reach Their Potential
by Richard Guare, Peg Dawson, Colin Guare
Guilford Publications, 2012

Provide advice to teens and parents about having realistic expectations; encourage them to agree on a level of normalcy and adequate rest for the teen so that he or she can still fulfill responsibilities in the home.

“Maternity and Pediatric Nursing” by Susan Scott Ricci, Terri Kyle
from Maternity and Pediatric Nursing
by Susan Scott Ricci, Terri Kyle
Wolters Kluwer Health/Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2009

As with any aspect of parenting a teen, we recommend that you adhere to three basic principles: Respect your teen’s independence, be fair, and be honest.

“My Teen Has Had Sex, Now What Do I Do?” by Ph.D., Maureen Lyon, Maureen Lyon, Ph.d., Christina Antoniades
from My Teen Has Had Sex, Now What Do I Do?
by Ph.D., Maureen Lyon, Maureen Lyon, Ph.d., Christina Antoniades
Fair Winds Press, 2009

If you look back at the nine principles in Chapter 6, you’ll see that three of them (5, 6, and 7) urge you to help your teen become independent while maintaining adequate structure and supervision.

“Your Defiant Teen, First Edition: 10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship” by Russell A. Barkley, Arthur L. Robin, Christine M. Benton
from Your Defiant Teen, First Edition: 10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship
by Russell A. Barkley, Arthur L. Robin, Christine M. Benton
Guilford Publications, 2008

Recall from chapter 1 that emerging adults see the three cornerstones for becoming an adult as accepting responsibility for yourself, making independent decisions, and becoming financially independent.

“Emerging Adulthood: The Winding Road from the Late Teens through the Twenties” by Jeffrey Jensen Arnett
from Emerging Adulthood: The Winding Road from the Late Teens through the Twenties
by Jeffrey Jensen Arnett
Oxford University Press, 2004

Promoting Autonomy Parents can help teenagers learn to become independent by encouraging them to do more things themselves.

“Handbook of Parenting and Child Development Across the Lifespan” by Matthew R. Sanders, Alina Morawska
from Handbook of Parenting and Child Development Across the Lifespan
by Matthew R. Sanders, Alina Morawska
Springer International Publishing, 2018

Respect adolescents’ need to exert independence from parents, and remember that they may alternate between dependence and a wish to be independent.

“Nursing Care of the Critically Ill Child E-Book” by Mary Fran Hazinski
from Nursing Care of the Critically Ill Child E-Book
by Mary Fran Hazinski
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2012

For example, if your son or daughter lacks skills for living away from home, you can teach skills such as budgeting, shopping, cooking, laundry, and cleaning, and by setting reasonable expectations that specific chores will be done.

“The Complete Family Guide to Schizophrenia: Helping Your Loved One Get the Most Out of Life” by Kim T. Mueser, Susan Gingerich
from The Complete Family Guide to Schizophrenia: Helping Your Loved One Get the Most Out of Life
by Kim T. Mueser, Susan Gingerich
Guilford Publications, 2006

Make sure your teen knows that if she chooses not to live out these values, she will lose some privileges, such as phone use and computer time.

“Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No” by John Townsend
from Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No
by John Townsend
Zondervan, 2009

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  • Your videos helped me a lot.Hope you read my comment,because I have a question. We have an adopted son,he is now 3 jears old,but he is with us since he had 4 months..Hes biological parents come to see him a couple of times in year,but they are not together and they don´t want him back…So,my queston is:”When and how to tell him about everything?”I think he yet doesn´t understand much,so i´m not sure what to do? Thank you and greetings from Austria

  • https://medium.com/the-innovation/things-i-wish-i-heard-when-i-was-a-kid-db106863a4f2

    A lot of us are frequently looking for advice on how to raise our kids or what we can tell them so they do better. Please check this out if you have time. Thank you very much.

  • CX. The Great Being saith: O ye children of men! The fundamental purpose animating the Faith of God and His Religion is to safeguard the interests and promote the unity of the human race, and to foster the spirit of love and fellowship amongst men. Suffer it not to become a source of dissension and discord, of hate and enmity. This is the straight Path, the fixed and immovable foundation. Whatsoever is raised on this foundation, the changes and chances of the world can never impair its strength, nor will the revolution of countless centuries undermine its structure. Our hope is that the world’s religious leaders and the rulers thereof will unitedly arise for the reformation of this age and the rehabilitation of its fortunes. Let them, after meditating on its needs, take counsel together and, through anxious and full deliberation, administer to a diseased and sorely-afflicted world the remedy it requireth…. It is incumbent upon them who are in authority to exercise moderation in all things. Whatsoever passeth beyond the limits of moderation will cease to exert a beneficial influence. Consider for instance such things as liberty, civilization and the like. However much men of understanding may favorably regard them, they will, if carried to excess, exercise a pernicious influence upon men…. Please God, the peoples of the world may be led, as the result of the high endeavors exerted by their rulers and the wise and learned amongst men, to recognize their best interests. How long will humanity persist in its waywardness? How long will injustice continue? How long is chaos and confusion to reign amongst men? How long will discord agitate the face of society?.. The winds of despair are, alas, blowing from every direction, and the strife that divideth and afflicteth the human race is daily increasing. The signs of impending convulsions and chaos can now be discerned, inasmuch as the prevailing order appeareth to be lamentably defective. I beseech God, exalted be His glory, that He may graciously awaken the peoples of the earth, may grant that the end of their conduct may be profitable unto them, and aid them to accomplish that which beseemeth their station.
    (Baha’u’llah, Gleanings from the Writings of Baha’u’llah, p. 215)

  • In my opinion, I would prefer to tell my kid the best of his desire, which he might don’t know much about that yet. And I hope he can try his best to go for it.

  • One of the reasons for anxiety, depression, suicide, toxic relationships, and failed marriages is that we try to fulfill the UNREALISTIC GOALS that SOCIETY demands from us.

  • You desensitized them to punishment by punishing’s them over and over again and by knocking them around and then when older you turn them into boxers to help to reduce the nice guy in them and this includes blaming them when innocent.

  • So im a teen. When she said ask us questions and be interested…Honestly sometimes i just dont want to talk, but if your kid just doesnt want to talk it doesnt mean they had a bad day. Just because im in my phone all day doesnt mean im addicted to it, i just either miss my friends and theres already so much to deal with online anyway. And when it comes to encouraging your kid dont over exaggerate, it just gets annoying. When your teaching us something new, dont treat us like we’re two, we usually know a lot more than you think. Just somes thoughts from a teen i guess.

  • Very inspirational! One of the things my wife and I are experimenting with, is doing family activities at home. We found that if we make music with our son he really enjoys it and we can bond in a unique way to make the best out of his childhood and also help to develop the brain in a fun way. Do any of you also experiment with this? If so, what are your experiences? Do you have background music on during playtime? I recently started a channel named Songs For Cool Kids, where I would like to help others experiment with music. I am very keen to hear from other parents. Thanks in advance. Hope you have a great day.

  • Raising kids has some challenges. I created a book about the most interesting stories with our kids.
    Here is a free sample of one of my ebook.
    This story is mostly inspired by my actual experiences in raising my two kids, Cedrick and Cathrin.
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  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8vDk56su5mo&list=PL7IRslvuqhLOQ2QP57B3pKHn-ytI4P0U5&index=7&t=0s
    Rightly said by ma’am in the video… good video. parenting plays very crucial role hence parents must take good care of every step they take.

  • My parents never really cared about grades when I was a child. As long as I passed the classes, I bearly did. the problem is… they never really make me do chores either lol. I turned out find I guess. I turned out fine I guess, I still got tones of anxiety and are learning to function as an adult

  • last August was breast exam, I’m good for two years. Went to dentist a couple of months back and have been rechecked again, got a mini gum cleaning. Been flossing more something adults and kids, myself included, tend to overlook and think brushing and mouth wash do the trick. It doesn’t. Got my latest physical January of this year. As far as my parents, they did instill a sense of honesty and especially being responsible for myself and my actions and to pick up after myself. I’ve seen some posters say that parents don’t “do this” and I don’t know about that. My parents were about taking care of yourself by not developing habits that could be expensive to have, such as don’t smoke, don’t drink, don’t do drugs. Some may find that antiquated or boring but I know a lot of people in my age group that partied a bit too hard and their bodies and mind are now paying the price. Not worth it. I want to be as painfree and drugfree as possible until I am old and rickety and get the best pain relievers then. Until then, I do have to work on being less sedentary otherwise, I eat my veggies and fruit every day.

  • I’m a teenager. I’m literally crying. I wish my my parents got this. I’m not meant for what they want me to become, have my own interests and talents. Who cares.

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  • I’m only ten, but, next year when it’s the first day of school; I’ll hopefully do some of these! Thank you so much! Subscribed! ��

  • Wow she nailed it. Brilliance is realizing in the present moment what you’re doing wrong and making the adjustments. What an awesome talk. Wish I would’ve seen this while I was raising my son. But I think I did a good enough job & I’m happy with the man he’s become. I hope this helps many other parents raise strong, happy and successful kids. Thank you!

  • The key is in balancing between the good intentions of parents and letting the children do what they want. I saw some great parenting advice on https://www.parentingsuccess.org that teaches parents just how to do that.

  • nobody:
    me: literally paused the video every 5 seconds to take notes only to end the video and say she had them all written out on a google doc ��

  • with coronavirus; maybe we are home schooling more, and maybe a positive thing; familie’s getting away from the dog-and pony show of the pressure show of Colleges athletic departments. I really enjoy the lack of meaningless athletic sports in this 2020. We have been too long woried about the stupidity of raising our children to be 1 out of 20,000 athlete. Might we develope other more precious abilities towards cancer; cardiovascular disease;-and many other pandemic’s across all society?????????

  • this ted talk honestly made me cry. my issue is that i don’t think my parents have created that “checklisted” life for me, i think it was my own doing. i’ve been in honors and accelerated classes from the time i was a third grader. early on i learned to make my own checklist, to regulate what i was doing everyday, and my parents partially contributed to that. but i thought that their support of this lifestyle meant it was right, and i’m now a junior in high school that has collapsed under the pressure. the past three months have been the biggest educational downfall of my life, and i think it’s like what you said. i’m burned out, i’m tired, i’m anxious, i’m depressed. i have no sense of purpose anymore and i don’t do the work unless a teacher emails or calls and my parents yell at me to do it. they don’t understand that everything i’ve believed my entire life has come crashing down on me and i’m so burnt out. i always used to believe everything in school had to be perfect for college, and i couldn’t really accept it when i had to drop an ap class in sophomore year. i’ve had struggles with mental health for a few years now, and in freshman year one of my friends reported me and my only concern was that it would show up on my record and colleges wouldn’t want a “messed up” kid. this ted talk has helped me realized that i can’t be perfect, i just need to try my best. build myself back up. that’s what i’m trying to do, anyway. thank you for this. to other struggling kids out there: it will get better. please don’t let a checklist define your life, i promise it’s not worth it. to parents out there who are supporting a checklisted life or have instituted it: please have a conversation with your child. don’t let them disregard their own mental health for good grades. at some point they will be burned out too, and you shouldn’t let them get to that point before you realize how much they are hurting. i’ve been hurting for a long time, and getting good grades does not help the pain go away. it only makes it worse. it makes you believe that the pain is necessary in order to get good grades. it’s not. thank you for this ted talk ❤️

  • I’m 23 and every day I’m realizing how much adulting I still need to do. I live with my parents and they still treat me like they did when I was a child. Even tho accepting their unconditional love and help is tempting, I want to start being more responsible and take care of myself. I always postponed adulting because I thought I couldn’t have fun anymore, but that’s not true. I just need to find balance. Thank you for the great tips!

  • Awesome video. Unconditional love is everything; it gives a child permission to try their hardest without worrying about being unloved if they fail. It’s really about allowing a child to grow. Thanks for preaching such positive messages for parents out there I do the same through my channel, having recently started a video series on empowering my little guy to achieve his greatness in life. Check it out if interested https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HDXoTnVMhAQ&t=1s

  • Hi everyone! Help your children to learn how to read with this new kindle ebook: Emmi the giraffe.

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  • Yes, but so many people don’t call you in 5, neither 6, neither text a short msg they will actually call you tomorrow because they had to catch an old friend in the local coffee shop ��

  • I am 13 years old and I am watching this because I want to be 1 sept ahead them.
    I also want to study in harvard and my parents are really laid back but I get stressed because of mcat and the right score…

  • Your videos are so inspiring Hannah Ashton, I started watching them last week and my life has really changed….thank you for the good work…

  • we failed to believe in ourselves and went with the common “secured” way to success and thinking it is for everyone, we dragged these little lights that hold answers to the future into old paths. Not much you can get out of it, at least not for what it’s intended

  • Agree with this. But what do you do if your kid is running riot in school and home with no sense of rules….easier said than done! Its human nature to WANT to overprotective

  • It really is a shame that in the United States that you people cannot Master a simple skill that other species have you cannot dictate your children’s lives especially when they get older you have to go from being the boss to being a guide you tell them what you know and what you feel is best but you do not try to force them to go with it one of the problems in America is they have tooken away the right to punish kids for bad behavior maybe the old ways were too harsh at times but raising kids to believe they can do whatever they want without consequences is also bad maybe getting spanked was not the best but it helped to keep me in line I can’t believe I live in a country where a five-year-old can get their parents arrested for spanking them

  • Shes the one, any body that has a mom, recognizes her intuition, that sort of nudgeing of consideration, where her ideas shed light onto whats the meaning of being a mom, i love my mom

  • My 5 year old granddaughter was acting spoiled and selfish as most kids will do at times. My daughter took action and told the young one that she would not receive any personal gifts for her upcoming birthday. Instead, she could pick a worthwhile cause that friends and family members could contribute to instead, if they wished. She picked the recent plight of the koalas in Australia and with some help, set up a fund goal of $200. She is beyond excited to see her little fund grow to help her cause and I think it will creat a lasting impression on her, more than any toy could.

  • I noticed that Mrs. Lythcott-Haims ended without saying what college her kids ended up at. My guess they both went to prestigious colleges (as well as great schools throughout their lives). Parents can encourage kids and be involved without taking over their lives. Parenting does not have to be an all or nothing in ‘either’ direction. Mrs. Lythcott-Haims started out her talk by saying that one style is really hurting children. Parent shaming? from a ‘Parent Expert’? is that really a thing. Facteducation has been a major contributor to breaking the cycle of poverty. If you are strongly encouraging your kids to be ambitious and to do better than you, maybe continue to do that. If you want to take a more laid back approach to parenthood, please do that too. Every child is different and as long as you have the best interest and do the best you can as a parent for your child/ren, it is going to be ok. You are the parenting expert in your child’s life. You are enough.

  • My god she’s just talking about her kids she really doesn’t need to be so loud and seems angry �� she needs to learn how to stay calm and gives a calmful talk instead. I found her talking style really uncomfortable like she’s gonna kick me the next second

  • Hey so, so I have a mom who’s autistic and a dad who’s just really bad at teaching stuff in an effective manner. I used to be going down a road of not being able to take care of myself and basically not having the proper levels of capability to function well in society and be independent. Luckily I made some really good friends who steered me down the right path towards self betterment and independence. My problem is I see my little sister going down the exact same path, maybe even worse than me. She’s around 14 and my biggest problem with her is she always has to be told to care for herself. She never cleans her room (which a understand isn’t the most unusual thing for a teen to do) and she won’t even clean herself. If I don’t tell her to take a bath, she won’t. If I don’t tell her to clean her teeth she won’t. There have been times where if I hadn’t told her to clean herself for a few days, I notice her feet be pitch black and she’ll be all yucky. So my question is, as her brother, how do I get her to be proactive and do these things without being asked?

  • This is so hard for me to watch. I raised my oldest like a “bonsai” and he survived me but not w/o cost. Parents of young children please don’t let this be just another ted talk. Take her advice run w it. This could very well be the best parenting advice you will ever get.

  • These kind of parents don’t stop when their kids are grown and married with kids of their own. Not only they don’t respect boundaries they are also very controlling.That is why my husband cut off his mom and she still don’t see anything wrong with her behavior.

  • 1. wear resistance leggings
    2. cut back on caffeine
    3. goal writing
    4. write your resolutions for the schoolyear
    5. when procrastinating -> write down why you are not willing to do your work
    6. color code your notes
    7. use tabs/divide your notes
    8. invest in supplies that will be beneficial to you
    9. adjust to your energy (when you have energy, work really hard and when you don’t have a lot of energy, do the chill tasks)
    10. days you have high energy -> do as much as you can and maybe do some of tomorrow’s work
    11. presentation? -> know what you are talking about
    12. presentation? -> do some power poses
    13. take full responsibility for your actions
    14. know how to work with other people
    15. know the etiquette on how to talk on the phone
    16. surround yourself with good people
    17. put your business cards up wherever you can
    18. write your list of accomplishment
    19. know your worth personally
    20. start finding who you really are

  • This is well worded but the point is one of mediocrity this is a black woman speaking on a mentality of weakness. Life has a way of balancing things when you use maximum effort. I denounce this message. If you’re average get there by doing your best. She’s talking like all Americans experience the same childhood.

  • 1) take care of your health and your body. Go to the doctor.
    2) get your financials in order. Budgeting etc.
    3) organise your life.
    4) take ownership. Stop blaming others and apologise when you make a mistake.
    5) don’t lie. integrity. You say you do something so do it.
    5) ask for help from others and yourself. If you can’t help yourself first than ask others.
    6) learn how to be a good friend. Listening and not being envious or jealous. This is about them and not me. Put yourself in their position.
    7) clean up after yourself. Do your dishes and your laundry.
    8) make time for fun.

  • Needed the one about public speaking I am doing an opening statement and cross and direct examining witnesses in a mock trial �� needed help so thank u

  • what if you have no work, no homework, and you’re broke. What do you do then?
    What if you have working parents (dad at night so sleeps during the day, and mom during the day)?

  • I just wanted to say that you are so amazing ☺️ I love your organizing videos and they really help me to get motivated. Thank you so much for sharing all these hacks ���� #Greetingsfromgermany

  • The style tip is so helpful believe me for the whole first part of my life I was trying to be my older sister and I was honestly so hard on myself because I wasn’t her and now that I’ve found my own style I’m so much more confident and happy����

  • Wow! I love this video! Thanks for all of the habits, tips, and techniques Hannah Ashton! I’m a teenager, and this video is so helpful for me, and of course, I’m gonna change my habits to achieve my goals!

  • When we spoke about how irresponsibility is a trap what about if the parents were permissive there for it didn’t matter they had all the freeedom they want and has Jodi Aman heard of permissive parents who didn’t put too many rules on them

  • Power poses have actually been debunked, BUT positive affirmations can help some people (I don’t think it’s been tested, but until it has, no harm in trying)

  • first of all children are not raise. You can raise cows, pigs, goats, chicken etc. Children need love, affection and so on children are to be cultivated.

  • I have just subscribed to your channel today and I absolutely love it! You have inspired me to do so many posititve things and things that I know that I need to change to live a healthier and happier life. Thank you Hannah!

  • So like people keep screaming credit karma. I’ve had that app since I was 18 it said I have NO CREDIT I’m about to be 20 and It still says I have NO CREDIT. Like how tf I thought they help build your credit??!!

  • I love that last tip so much! I try to soooooo hard, buy my family and high school limit me in every single way possible and it’s frustrating. I can’t wait though to be able to apply these tips fully when I leave for college soon!

  • Thank you! My 13-year-old son is super independent. He takes himself to school, cooks food, and goes out by himself. He never asks me to help him or play with him. I sometimes get a little worried, by hey, he is a teen after all

  • Dear Parents, if you have kids starting to learn reading then you gonna absolutely need to watch this video: https://youtu.be/w9Lj1KQtvPU

  • Ok just watched this and my son walked up asking if he can go outside right before dinner. Yes son as long as you come right back in when your dad gets home. Which is really in 5 mins. ��

  • I think the running line is reverse, it should be “high control” at age 0 (low maturity). He said “we as parents take control, that’s at the top of the line” for younger ages. So at stage 2 control is lowered, and by age 3 very little control.

  • Hi Dr, I accidentally stumbled upon your videos and have been binge watching the. ever since! They are immensely helped me with parenting and building positive relationships with my two children. You are a genious! Thanks for sharing all your knowledge with us!

  • I need a video to give to my mom  in law on how  her to change her man child, my brother in law, into an independent man.  This I think is a problem in most of America. You know  the one, he’s 45 and still lives and home, no job, and the parents still do everything for him and won’t listen to advice..Thank you.

  • Stage one, it’s selfish, self-centered, immature, a lot of manipulating and demanding. They don’t have much self-control. Does this sound familiar? Yeah, my wife was like that.

  • Hey “Julie”, has your kid moved you into his house and started feeding you and toileting you yet? No? Then you have no idea whether you were a good parent or not….

  • just curious, when we apply the third step by saying ‘no problem’, assuming they will likely come back with yes to do the task condition, would that not be another form of manipulation on our part i.e the parent?

    I love the straegy and just seeking clarification please

  • Many years before, a survey conducted among adults. The survey asked the grown-ups, what were their best childhood happy memories.

    The people who surveyed actually EXPECTED the adults would say that the happiest moment was when they got expensive gifts, first bike, first expensive toy, first car, expensive cloths and other expensive things.

    They were REALLY shocked to get answers from adults that their MOST-CHERISHED and MOST-MEMORABLE memories were the INEXPENSIVE picnics with all the family members, fishing trips, tour/ pleasure trips, games they played during trips, food they took together, jokes exchanged, songs they sang together, and dialogues they had with family/ relatives in childhood.

    The children enjoy a lovable family where the parents love each other and care for each other.

    A child feels SAFEST in a PEACEFUL family. NOT in a family where father and mother are in a bitter quarrel/ battle (in court or at home). A child WANTS love from BOTH parents TOGETHER, and not love coming individually.

    Plus the children want to hold the hands of BOTH parents from both sides and walk (in a park and in life).

    A effects of a loveless or disappointed or troubled early life nomally continues for future generations.

    Children don’t like at-all the SEPARATION of their parents. One thing that parents can do, if they want to gift a SUPER-LIFE to children is NOT to live separately and to have any extra-marital affairs or divorce. Parents not to dislike each other, if they REALLY care for their children. A nice, beautiful/ handsome, strong, rich, caring, smooth talking woman/ man may CROSS life of husband/ wife frequently/ occassionally. But changing tracks is to be strictly avoided at all costs. All should think of the children FIRST, not thinking about one’s own pleasures.

    This money, properties are all secondary. Education IS important. But not at the cost of peaceful LIFE or HAPPINESS of any individual.

  • Another thing to adult is to take out the trash, thinking for yourself aka making up your own decisions, doing things on your own without any help:)

  • They really should teach you all of this at school like who is going to use a calculator in adult life?!! No you need to learn about house problems and stuff like that

  • I was hesitant to click on this vid because a lot of these feel very click-bait.

    But props to your use of transitions to make jokes about yourself. It was a nice touch without being cringey or “flexing” like a lot of workout help vids are.

    Do you also do production/post yourself, or is there a team involved?

  • Last time I went to the doctor was maybe 5 months ago. Pointless to go. The doctors no longer be live in phyicals. If I go for a pap I will litteraly have to ask them to look at my breast if I have anything in worried about. They seem more uncomfortable than me.

  • This lady preached about my ENTIRE Childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood. My parents generation created a mess of children. However, us as millenials have to willingly make an effort to change the future!

  • I will always manage my time but I will.also.always be childish and act.like a 4 year old who watches telle tubbies I dont care what anyone thinks it’s my life

  • And don’t forget to count the little victorys! Yeah the day might have been bad and it might of rained all day but hey, at least you had your umbrella. Or the clouds looked nice, or I saw a really cute bird out side, or something! Because taking into account all the little things might just make your days that much better

  • I’m 34. Ive hardly paid bills my whole life (well i have a little). Never paid rent. Always had a free car. Always had free health care (except for one month). I get Pap smears. I never had a boyfriend, problems losing virginity. I take pills to keep me skinny. The list goes on and on. My life is not an adulting life. And obviously i live with my ‘rents.

  • I just turned 14 and And realization hit me hard that I Know nada about adulting or life outside. Lmao so I’m just getting ready for everything.

  • Me: how to be an adult
    High school: chances are, you’ll need to know how to make iron from dirt and carbon more (tho it does cost a couple million dollars, but….)

  • I hate people who comment like I’m a about to but shessss soooo dank like wtfffffff she don’t need to moisturise she just pure creaminess ugh

  • I may only be 15, but it’s never bad to start being more mature now. I wanna know these things so when I’m into Adulthood, I won’t be clueless. Especially since they don’t teach us these things at school.

  • My jealousy/envy has always been… nurturing (for lack of a better word). When I’m jealous, I don’t seek to destroy or take it from them, I seek to help them do better with it. It’s the weirdest thing.

  • I’ve watched many videos similar to this one but something about this one actually inspired me to do better in school. So thank you thank you!��

  • I just got check recently, something my doctor told me this is apparently new information in the medical world that up until you’re 40 your body sheds the HPV virus (or something like that)

  • MY mom drinks coffee all of the time and nothing happened to her. shes very succssesful. So take not that you can drink caffeine if you want.

  • “A Teacher is responsible for preparing lesson plans and educating students at all levels. Their duties include assigning homework, grading tests, and documenting progress. Teachers must be able to instruct in a variety of subjects and reach students with engaging lesson plans.” The rest you learn at home. The first school is home.

  • This is an awesome list, really sound. I just wish I didn’t have to fail at everything to learn these lessons ��. Also, yes to ��Integrity ���� — for others and most of all yourself. If you say I’m going to do the laundry, work out, or wash my hair today, DO IT. If you don’t do those things you become a liar and someone of little integrity to YOURSELF. And we all know we’re our own worst enemy �� not keeping your word to yourself can definitely lead to a lack of self awareness, esteem and actualization. ��

  • What kind of consequences are best to apply for a teen who is not motivated, bit lazy, gets easily distracted and hooked on watching videos (while we think he’s studying)??? We took his phone away but he’s not studying so grades are falling. It’s so hard to get him just to read! We need help!
    He’d be out on his bike all day long if he could but he doesn’t help with chores and homework/reading is a huge chore! Suggestions please.
    *I just finished watching your video so I have to add the embarrassing truth that I am not a good model!
    I must make changes in myself!

  • My last routine check up was too long ago! This video was a good reminder, thank you Maya! Something I do for my finances is to use a weekday (not a holiday) to run errands. I got the idea from someone on the internet, but I don’t remember who! I’ll add my wellness check ups to that “spring cleaning” day as well.

  • You should do a series! The things that parents don’t teach you and then sometimes as a young adult we get judged if we don’t know a few things… they never taught us!!! Lmaoo

  • You’re definitely not the only one. My New Years resolution was to get ALL of my regular check-ups. For me that means a dental cleaning/consult, a physical, a gyno annual, a visit to the dermatologist, not to mention staying in therapy! IM TIEDDDD and these co-pays etc!

  • I’ve been putting this video on pause “until I had time”. So grateful that I clicked on this today. Love this!! Thank you for investing in your audience with these videos!

  • Ha! the last time I was at the dr was 2 years ago because I needed a Dr’s note to stay home sick from work for a 4th day. It took 15 minutes and cost me $850 because they gave me a little red anti-nausea pill while I was there. Shoulda just toughed that day out. Life lesson learned! The last time I was at the dr and ACTUALLY needed it was 6 years ago when I was having a c-section and giving birth to my son. Wasn’t actually sick that time either but it counts right?

  • Being an adult is like being a Quentin Tarantino movie: it starts out real cool, there’s lots of cursing, it’s very confusing, everyone dies.

  • Thank you so much. I’ve several other videos on this topic and didn’t feel like they were really getting it. However you hit the nail right on the head. I plan to watch this with my son later. To show him that his friends parents who don’t encourage responsibility as the path to true freedom are doing their kids a disservice. He is lucky to have someone sharing and showing him some truths about life.

  • HERE IS HOW TO MESS UP YOUR CHILD FOR LIFE (or what not to do if you don’t want that to happen)… https://lonesoulofmine.blogspot.com/2020/05/how-to-mess-up-your-children-for-life.html

  • I had laughs and tears along the way when saw this great speech, as a parent to a teen, lots of the information matched what I’ve done or the other parents have done to the kids. I think it’s the critical time to have a reflection and change our way of parenting, thanks for the great tips been given, love and chores, I totally agree!

  • Hey Jodi, I fully agree with everything you are saying, responsibility = freedom is spot on, here the problem in my fam, my siblings have all the freedom without any responsibility… I feel like there is a mentally of entitlement, and not of gratitude. Simple tasks are ‘to hard’ and there is no motivation to support the team. As I am not a parent but the eldest teenager I know it’s not my place to be a parent but it bugs me to my soul that they don’t help, I know this is because I don’t tolerate this behaviour in myself but I want to be part of the change, any advice?